Would you want it done to you?. People are quick to talk about what their partner did or said to them, but what did they say to cause that reaction?
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".= Matthew 7:12 NCV
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you".= Matthew 7:12 NCV
For example, I say "oh, I love Magic Mike!!" and my lover gets sad and insecure. Now, some people act like the suffer is at fault, but if the tables were turned the non would not like that.
Non - "[celebs] is hot"
Suffer gets sad and sensitive and insecure.
non-"Your depression,bpd,etc is causing you to feel like that."
but if...
Suffer - [celeb] is hot"
Non - "your depression, bpd,etc is making you say that. You are trying to be mean and bring me down. You're always needing to find it elsewhere," etc,etc,etc."
- "The Golden Rule or ethic of reciprocity is a moral maxim or principle of altruism found in nearly every human culture and religion, suggesting it is related to a fundamental human nature. The maxim may appear as either a positive or negative injunction governing conduct:One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself (positive or directive form).One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated (negative or prohibitive form).What you wish upon others, you wish upon yourself (empathic or responsive form)." - Wikipedia
- "The Rule of Three (also Three-fold Law or Law of Return) is a religious tenet held by some Wiccans/Pagans. It states that whatever energy a person puts out into the world, be it positive or negative, will be returned to that person three times. Some subscribe to a variant of this law in which return is not necessarily threefold" - Wikipedia
- "“Treat others how you want to be treated.” - The golden Rules @ Family Share
For example, I say "oh, I love Magic Mike!!" and my lover gets sad and insecure. Now, some people act like the suffer is at fault, but if the tables were turned the non would not like that.
Non - "[celebs] is hot"
Suffer gets sad and sensitive and insecure.
non-"Your depression,bpd,etc is causing you to feel like that."
but if...
Suffer - [celeb] is hot"
Non - "your depression, bpd,etc is making you say that. You are trying to be mean and bring me down. You're always needing to find it elsewhere," etc,etc,etc."
Don't judge, no one is "normal"
- No One is 'Normal' uploaded by The School of Life - "Everyone assumes that they are the only one to be freakish. In fact, of course, it’s very normal to be abnormal"
- Icon For Hire - Cynics & Critics @Youtube // @Genius
- Icon For Hire – Make A Move @ Youtube // @Genius
- The Sane Society Paperback by Erich Fromm - "The Sane Society is a continuation and extension of the brilliant psychiatric concepts Erich Fromm first formulated in Escape from Freedom; it is also, in many ways, an answer to Freud's Civilization and its Discontents. Fromm examines man's escape into overconformity and the danger of robotism in contemporary industrial society: modern humanity has, he maintains, been alienated from the world of their own creation. Here Fromm offers a complete and systematic exploration of his "humanistic psychoanalysis." In so doing, he counters the profound pessimism for our future that Freud expressed and sets forth the goals of a society in which the emphasis is on each person and on the social measures designed to further function as a responsible individual."
- Those who only see the worst in you are blind to their own life" - Chris Crocker's Vide
- "I can't watch you destroy yourself." by WLI
- Before you judge others or claim any absolute true, consider that...
- Don't get caught in an ego trap
- Don't judge.... who are you to judge anyway
Y'all always need reassurance.
Y'all always need reassurance. Relax and stop wanting to leave a person who may be depressed just because he or she doesn't always show you love or love you how "you want". You are leaving him or her for the same things YOU do.
- "In our daily life, we feel happy when someone smiles and treats us with affection. But if they frown we feel uncomfortable. This is a sign that we need friends. Friendship doesn’t depend on fame, money or physical strength. It’s based on trust and trust depends on love and affection. Therefore, love and affection are important if we are to live a happy life." - Dalai Lama
we are all a little bit suicidal.
- When You’re Suicidal, But You Don’t Want to Die by Taylor Jones @ The Mighty - "I’m suicidal. And no, it’s not what you think. I am safe. I am not harming myself. I do not have a plan, and I do not plan on doing anything. But I’m suicidal. And I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t.....I should explain better; sometimes being suicidal is different than suicidal thoughts. It’s an actual feeling. The feeling that you have an itch you can’t scratch, that a dark cloud is shrouding you. It’s anxiety and depression, it’s mixed state. You’re drowning, there’s no air, and coming down from that feeling takes so long you think it’s impossible. You have blinders on and you don’t know what’s going to happen next. You just have to push through. And while this feeling is happening, you go through your day, as normal as you can, without feeding the feeling."
There is no wrong way to have feelings
- No one has it ALL figured out uploaded byDerrick Evens
- “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.” ― Jim Morrison
- "The world I believe in is one where embracing...." quote from Kevin Breel
- "I have beaten myself up for feeling too much and for thinking that feeling too much was a sign of weakness."
- "Beauty and mess go hand in hand" by Anne Lamott
- "...Your feelings are a part of you.Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you're letting society destroy your reality.You should stand up for your right to feel your pain." - Jim Morrison
- Bebe Rexha - I'm Gonna Show You Crazy
- "I have --- and I am not ashamed." picture of yourself!
You are not obligated to be happy go lucky
persephonic
- Persephonic definition @ What does Persephonic mean?
- Urban Dictionary: Persephonic - "3. pertains to the by-product of two opposing extremes. For example, when the most intense destruction process meets the most inspired creation process, it becomes a PERSEPHONIC process. It is the perfect balance of two imbalanced extremes. "
some of the most INFLUENTIAL people had "mental disorders"
- A Country Built by Obsessives - Scientific American - "Thomas Jefferson, the third president and principal author of the Declaration of Independence, kept detailed accounts to track every penny he spent. Steve Jobs was famously fastidious about the cleanliness of his factories, flying into rages when he found too much dust. In a new book, America’s Obsessives, author Joshua Kendall argues that obsessive compulsive personality disorder has shaped many great figures who have in turn shaped our country. He answered questions from Mind Matters editor Gareth Cook. "
- America's Obsessives: The Compulsive Energy That Built a Nation Kindle Edition by Joshua Kendall - " In this fascinating look at the arc of American history through the lens of compulsive behavior, he shows how some of our nation's greatest achievements-from the Declaration of Independence to the invention of the iPhone-have roots in the disappointments and frustrations of early childhood.Starting with the obsessive natures of some of Silicon Valley's titans, including Steve Jobs, Kendall moves on to profile seven iconic figures, such as founding father Thomas Jefferson, licentious librarian Melvil Dewey, condiment kingpin H. J. Heinz, slugger Ted Williams, and Estee Lauder. This last personality was so obsessed with touching other women's faces that she transformed her compulsion into a multibillion-dollar cosmetics corporation.
- The Madness of Adam and Eve: How Schizophrenia Shaped Humanity by David F. Horrobin - "Schizophrenia is the only illness to be found in equal measure in all racial groups, pointing to the fact that the disease must have been present at the dawn of mankind before the races diversified and spread from Africa throughout Eurasia and Australasia. "