I'm a healer. Which I've come to find out is the reason why I keep falling in love with broken people. It is my opinion that,the issue is, now-a-days, lots of people are healers, but their ego wants a "perfect" relationship. Their ego wins and their healer-self (I guess,idk a word for right here) dies, letting the ego win. Which is why people break up because their partner is depressed,etc. Their healer-self fell in love with their broken-ness, but ego split them up.This isn't trying to fix someone, or seeing someone as easy to control to your mold, this is about caring for people an just wanting to be there for them. But as healers, we must learn that people are not objects to be fixed. They are people who need to be able to feel things, who have to be able to make their own choices when it comes to their emotions and feelings. As much as we want to heal them, wanting to heal someone can also be a negative thing. We unconsciously objectify them, we unconsciously think that we are the only thing that can save them, and in a way, we are unconsciously feeding the idea that their own bodies,minds, how they feel & what they feel is best for themselves can not be trusted.
Simply cuddling, having sex, showing unconditional love for them no matter what is what you need to aim for instead of trying to make a person feel better, or attempting to fix them.
Also see : "My way or the highway" tab located on the Moral IQ: Rudeness, abuse & unfairness page
Thought Policing tab located on the Moral IQ: Rudeness, abuse & unfairness page
They want to "fix" the broken/they see "potential" page
Also see : "My way or the highway" tab located on the Moral IQ: Rudeness, abuse & unfairness page
Thought Policing tab located on the Moral IQ: Rudeness, abuse & unfairness page
They want to "fix" the broken/they see "potential" page
we are not responsible for their thoughts , actions & feelings
Redeemer / Messiah Complex
YOU ARE OVERSTEPPING EMOTIONAL BOUNDARIES
Hero syndrome / Hero complex
knight in shining armor syndrome / White knight syndrome
it makes you feel better to make/help them feel better
See munchausen syndrome by proxy & superiority complex