1. "I want to lose weight."
Instead of saying "I'll help you."
Work with them to love his or herself, offer to exercise and go for walks more with them, but not with weight loss in mind but because that makes people feel better.Show them how to eat healthier (unless they eat healthy already) but not with weight loss in mind. There are tons of recipes on here!
2."I want to get breast implants,penis enlargement,etc".
Instead of feeding a person's idea to change him or herself, try to work with him or her to love his or herself.
Lets not feed the ideas of self hatred, and a person's conditional love for his or herself. Lets show others they should and NEED to love themselves no matter what size they are or how big or small certain body parts are.
The idea of "helping someone make themselves better" by helping them to lose weight only feeds fat hatred and fatphobia. It plays into the idea that fat people can't possibly be happy or healthy. Don't let others believe that. Help them to love themselves instead of helping them hate themselves.
Contributing to helping someone change, is in a way, contributing to promoting self hatred that the beauty industry and plastic surgery puts into our head.
"if you don't like something, change it." "Change is good"/ "you/I want to lose weigt, get penis enlargement, etc. to be the best version of myself."
That is the problem. We are made to hate ourselves. We are all perfect the way we are. God makes no mistakes. We need to preach more self love and acceptance and less "change what you dislike about yourself." If we keep promoting self hatred and changing oneself (when we are perfect as is) as okay, it will never end. Society is determined to make everyone act, and look the same. We need to work together to build self love AS WE or THEY ARE, not what we THINK we or they SHOULD be.
We are essentially telling someone that we agree with society's obsession with perfection when we tell someone "I'll help you change what you hate." "I'll help you lose weight" "I'll get plastic surgery with you." "Plastic surgery sounds great!" Etc.
There is no "better us" because we ARE the best version of ourselves already. Not after 20 pounds, not after we have bigger boobs or a bigger penis, but NOW.
Unless you're a mean person, then just lock yourself away from the rest of us.
P.s that is what they tell gay people right before they take them to conversion therapy. This is feeding into body dysmorphia and self hatred.
Changing and challenging yourself in areas such as your academic, education, business,etc. aspects of your life IS good;however, dieting,and trying to change YOU is not mentally healthy. YOU as a person, are perfect just the way you are!
"help people become the person they WANT to be." "Support who they want to become."
This is great for people who want to go to college, etc I mean support them in their pursuits academically, or business wise. But, promising the mindset of a person disliking something about their body or themselves is contributing to body dysmorphic disorder and what the beauty industry is doing when they push an ideal body onto others.
Instead, help them because the person they should be or would want to be by helping them LOVE themselves the way they are NOW.
Again, this does not include a friend who wants to go to college or anything like that, but for people who feel they need to change WHO they are to lose weight or look better or "feel better" about themselves. They can feel better by accepting and loving who they are AT THIS moment. It will never be enough if they, and you feed into that idea.
it will be "if I had bigger boobs,or a bigger penis..." etc. it will always be something. Help people love themselves NOW, not after they change.
- A little boy bullied for his ears gets a new look and has a heartwarming reaction! - Note: they could have helped him overcome and stand up to the bullies and helped him love himself. Now, he is going to want to fix EVERY flaw instewad of learning to accept it and just tell others to Shut up and shove it.
You will never be happy, you will always find something wrong with you.