They can read and understand human behavior.
They can read and understand both verbal and non-verbal communication.
Could people suffering from BPD,etc. just "know" human behavior,sociology, psychology, and body language and non-verbal communication.Just like some people are born with a high IQ, maybe people who have BPD && depression have a high emotional IQ and a high non-verbal IQ, or something like that?
I really do think that people who have BPD,etc. may be able to pick up on body language and tone of voice moreso than "normal" people. Someone who just "knows" colors better than someone else even though they didn't go to art school. There are people who are experts in body language and facial expressions but need to go to school for it. I think suffers "know" and are "experts" in the field of body language and non-verbal communication where us "normies" are not, we have to go to school or study it.
We may not pick up on the tone of voice of someone who is angry but smiles and has an angry eyebrow placement yet claims they are not angry.
We may not pick up on body language when someone tells us they are not annoyed, but tone of voice and body language says otherwise.
Where some people have to take years of study to read people they know, celebs and politicians, BPD suffers, in my opinion, have this ability and unwillingly use it on loved ones. I once saw a documentary about how politicians fake their body language because they know people will analyze them. When we are being fake even if we do it without our subconscious, a suffer will pick up on it. i thought of this because I took an interest in body language and non-verbal communication, I was always on edge and very sensitive to others around me. It was like I could read when they didn't want to be around me.
Suffers may pick up on a non's hidden feelings.I say hidden feelings because these are feelings maybe you may not even be aware of.If you, yourself are annoyed with him or her, he or she may be able to tell that by your voice,eyebrows,eye rolling,etc. even though you say you are fine.
They notice your "sigh" after you smile and act like you are okay with something they said or did.Suffers do not want to bring up the fact that they felt you were annoyed by them when you grunted and said "alright,hun" in a firm manner instead of a calm manner. Many people who have to live with a partner or loved one who has depression,etc. do this. I have noticed it. When the suffer asks about it (because we tell them they can talk to us about anything) we wonder what they are talking about. We tell their therapist they are paranoid and snapped the other way.We tell the therapist they felt we were lying and we don't know why they think that, but were we (nons) really being truthful? Without realizing it, WE may be the one who is lying without realizing it.Were we really being honest when we told our lover tht everything was fine and we just shrug it off as them being sensitive or paranoid.
We tell their therapist and others that our partner suffering with BPD,depression,etc thought we were annoyed, but "everything was fine" But, lets roll back. It wasn't fine. You were annoyed and he or she noticed it. You thought you played it off as you were okay, but you need to realize the tone of voice and body language gave it away. you were not fine. You need and will learn how to not be annoyed in the first place. People pick up when the significant other is upset and for someone who is depressed to sense they annoy someone because of something they can't control, it can be hurtful.
We need to be more aware of our facial expressions, tone of voice and how we use words.
Maybe we could just not be annoyed with our loved ones? meditate and non-judgmental stances may help us nons deal with the burden of getting annoyed,etc with our partner or loved ones who suffer from depression, bpd,etc.
They hide what they "know" to not upset you, and in return, they end up hurting themselves. They hide it to not cause a fight. They hide it so you don't think they are crazy.
They can read and understand both verbal and non-verbal communication.
Could people suffering from BPD,etc. just "know" human behavior,sociology, psychology, and body language and non-verbal communication.Just like some people are born with a high IQ, maybe people who have BPD && depression have a high emotional IQ and a high non-verbal IQ, or something like that?
I really do think that people who have BPD,etc. may be able to pick up on body language and tone of voice moreso than "normal" people. Someone who just "knows" colors better than someone else even though they didn't go to art school. There are people who are experts in body language and facial expressions but need to go to school for it. I think suffers "know" and are "experts" in the field of body language and non-verbal communication where us "normies" are not, we have to go to school or study it.
We may not pick up on the tone of voice of someone who is angry but smiles and has an angry eyebrow placement yet claims they are not angry.
We may not pick up on body language when someone tells us they are not annoyed, but tone of voice and body language says otherwise.
Where some people have to take years of study to read people they know, celebs and politicians, BPD suffers, in my opinion, have this ability and unwillingly use it on loved ones. I once saw a documentary about how politicians fake their body language because they know people will analyze them. When we are being fake even if we do it without our subconscious, a suffer will pick up on it. i thought of this because I took an interest in body language and non-verbal communication, I was always on edge and very sensitive to others around me. It was like I could read when they didn't want to be around me.
Suffers may pick up on a non's hidden feelings.I say hidden feelings because these are feelings maybe you may not even be aware of.If you, yourself are annoyed with him or her, he or she may be able to tell that by your voice,eyebrows,eye rolling,etc. even though you say you are fine.
They notice your "sigh" after you smile and act like you are okay with something they said or did.Suffers do not want to bring up the fact that they felt you were annoyed by them when you grunted and said "alright,hun" in a firm manner instead of a calm manner. Many people who have to live with a partner or loved one who has depression,etc. do this. I have noticed it. When the suffer asks about it (because we tell them they can talk to us about anything) we wonder what they are talking about. We tell their therapist they are paranoid and snapped the other way.We tell the therapist they felt we were lying and we don't know why they think that, but were we (nons) really being truthful? Without realizing it, WE may be the one who is lying without realizing it.Were we really being honest when we told our lover tht everything was fine and we just shrug it off as them being sensitive or paranoid.
We tell their therapist and others that our partner suffering with BPD,depression,etc thought we were annoyed, but "everything was fine" But, lets roll back. It wasn't fine. You were annoyed and he or she noticed it. You thought you played it off as you were okay, but you need to realize the tone of voice and body language gave it away. you were not fine. You need and will learn how to not be annoyed in the first place. People pick up when the significant other is upset and for someone who is depressed to sense they annoy someone because of something they can't control, it can be hurtful.
We need to be more aware of our facial expressions, tone of voice and how we use words.
Maybe we could just not be annoyed with our loved ones? meditate and non-judgmental stances may help us nons deal with the burden of getting annoyed,etc with our partner or loved ones who suffer from depression, bpd,etc.
They hide what they "know" to not upset you, and in return, they end up hurting themselves. They hide it to not cause a fight. They hide it so you don't think they are crazy.
For partners of someone who is depressed, has BPD,etc....
This will help you to figure out that your partner may actually be upset even though he or she said they were not. Plus, it can help you recognize that you may say you are fine, yet your NVC says otherwise (which I believe people who have BPD,etc. may pick up on)
He or she may also say they are fine, may they feel their emotions and feelings at the time are silly ,dumb,foolish, or stupid to feel that way so they bury it. Or, maybe they don't want to nag you about a jealous feeling they have. They "know" it's silly and don't want to turn into the "crazy bf," or "crazy gf." It eats them up inside. They don't want to bring up that they felt hurt because they feel you feel annoyed by them.
Reassure them, but do not push them to open up.
Read body language and tone of voice
Try to "sense" their emotions.
He or she may also say they are fine, may they feel their emotions and feelings at the time are silly ,dumb,foolish, or stupid to feel that way so they bury it. Or, maybe they don't want to nag you about a jealous feeling they have. They "know" it's silly and don't want to turn into the "crazy bf," or "crazy gf." It eats them up inside. They don't want to bring up that they felt hurt because they feel you feel annoyed by them.
Reassure them, but do not push them to open up.
Read body language and tone of voice
Try to "sense" their emotions.
Nonverbal communication
11.1 Principles of Nonverbal Communication | Business Communication for Success - "Nonverbal communication gives our thoughts and feelings away before we are even aware of what we are thinking or how we feel. People may see and hear more than you ever anticipated. Your nonverbal communication includes both intentional and unintentional messages, but since it all happens so fast, the unintentional ones can contradict what you know you are supposed to say or how you are supposed to react."
About Kinesics (aka body language)
- Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY - "In short all communicative body movements are generally classified as kinesic.
Kinesic communication is probably one of the most talked about, and most obvious non-verbal communication form. Unfortunately, it is also one of the most confusing areas of non-verbal communication behaviour as the various meanings communicated through body movements seem endless across cultures" - Body language @ Living Better
- Knowing body language saves embarrassment and improves understanding and clarity by John Fisher Body language @ Living Better
- Types of nonverbal communication - Kinesics, or "It's Not What You Say But How You Say It" by Lee Hopkins - "But verbal cues are usually those conveyed through the qualities of the voice, such as tone, volume, rhythm, pitch, pausing and inflection.All of these can be interpreted as many things and used in different ways.For instance, inflection is the musical quality of the voice -- the verbal ups or downs of a part of a word, a whole word or a series of words. In selling, vocal inflection is probably the most often used Kinesic form of communication.
Why? Because it can virtually change the entire meaning of a message, even when a single word is inflected. Take, for example, the following sentence:"I didn't say I love you."It's pretty straightforward, right? But instead, if I said:
"I didn't say I LOVE you" (where verbal emphasis is placed on the word "love," as in "loooovvvve"), then I might be implying that I simply "like" you.On the other hand, if the word "you" was emphasized (such as "I didn't say I love YOU"), then it could imply that I love someone else altogether." - Non- Verbal Communication Kinesics uploaded by jodi thongsy
- @Wikipedia - “Kinesics is the interpretation of body motion communication such as facial expressions and gestures, nonverbal behavior related to movement of any part of the body or the body as a whole. The equivalent popular culture term is body language, a term Ray Birdwhistell, considered the founder of this area of study,[1] neither used nor liked the term (on the grounds that what can be conveyed with the body does not meet the linguist's definition of language). Even so, many people use the term.”
- Kinesic Communication @ Changing Minds - Body posture. Gestures.Facial signals
- 5 types of kinesics @ Com101 - Emblems. Regulators. Illustrators.Affective Display.Adaptors.
- Study Body Language (dot) com
Facial expression
- 15 Newly Discovered Facial Expressions
- @ Wikipedia - “Facial recognition is often an emotional experience for the brain and the amygdala is highly involved in the recognition process.The eyes are often viewed as important features of facial expressions. Aspects such as blinking rate can be used to indicate whether or not a person is nervous or whether or not he or she is lying. Also, eye contact is considered an important aspect of interpersonal communication. However, there are cultural differences regarding the social propriety of maintaining eye contact or not.Beyond the accessory nature of facial expressions in spoken communication between people, they play a significant role in communication with sign language. Many phrases in sign language include facial expressions in the display.”
- Sociable machines - Facial expressions @ MIT
- Reading facial expressions of emotion @ APA
- In pictures: Scientists map 21 facial expressions and emotions @ Telegraph
- 8 Facial Expressions That Make You Remarkably Likable @ Inc.com
- Study: Domestic Horses Can Detect Negative Emotion in Human Facial Expressions @ The Atlantic
- Facial Expression Analysis - The Pocket Guide
- Study: Humans Can Make More Than 20 Distinct Facial Expressions @ The Atlantic
- Common Facial Expressions and Their Meaning (with Pictures) @ EnkiVillage
- Facial Expression Tutorial by Khappucino uploaded by khappucino
- Facial Expressions in American Sign Language (ASL) @ Life Print
- Guide to Reading Microexpressions @ Science of People
- MICRO EXPRESSIONS in 4K - LIE TO ME Style Analyzis - Micro Expressions Training like in Lie To Me uploaded by Patryk Wezowski
- The secrets to decoding facial expressions uploaded by The Oregonian
- Lie to Me - Reading Emotions and Deceit through Facial Expressions fom DPG plc uploaded by DPG PLC
- FACE READING: How To Read Faces - The Ultimate Advantage uploaded by UFOTV® The Disclosure Network
- Face to Face: The Science of Reading Faces uploaded by Paul Ekman Group YouTube Part 1 // Part 2 // Part 3
- Face Reading 101 uploaded by Dr. Peter S. Reznik, Ph.D. Part 1 // Part 2
gestures
Hand Gestures - Adaptors @ Study Body Language - "1) We can identify tension and nervousness from such gestures. We can also discover “hot spots” - key moments during an interaction that signal suppressed feelings or thoughts.2) They can help us reveal deceit. and I don’t specifically mean lying, it also includes exaggeration, shame, doubt and uncertainty. Such negative feelings inspire nervous actions that require some sort of pacifying behavior we can learn to spot.3) They can be utterly meaningless - shifting weight or scratching the ear might be a simple reaction to physical uneasiness that has nothing to do with feelings or attitude."
Handshakes
Body postures
Emblems
- Types of Nonverbal Communication @ Lard Bucket
- Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
- Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
- 5 types of kinesics @ com101
- Kinesics @ Creducation - "Emblems are nonverbal signals that can generally be translated directly into words."
- Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
- Emblems uploaded by expertvillage
- Cultural Similarities and Differences in Emblematic Gestures - "1. A difference in the form of an emblem across cultures in relation to the same verbal message. Insults, for instance, occurred in all regions and likely serve the same function, conveying offensive or aggressive messages to another.2. A difference in meaning to the same forms. The ‘‘ring,’’ for instance, in which a circle is made with the thumb and index finger and the other three fingers are open, can mean ‘‘A-OK,’’ ‘‘money,’’ or a variety of other messages.3. Culturally unique emblems. The message for ‘‘apology,’’ for instance, occurred only in South Asia; the message for ‘‘hunger’’ occurred only in East Asia; and the message for ‘‘day after tomorrow’’ occurred only in the Middle East, despite the fact that these are clearly universal concerns."
- Hand Gestures - Emblems (Part 1) @ Study Body Language - - "Emblems are our substitutes for actual words, just like the sign language blind people use. Of course, we're not adept as them in communicating through motions but we can learn it quickly enough and adapt it to our needs.
Illustrators
Types of Nonverbal Communication @ Lard Bucket - "These largely involuntary and seemingly natural gestures flow from us as we speak but vary in terms of intensity and frequency based on context. "
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
5 types of kinesics @ com101
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
5 types of kinesics @ com101
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Affect Displays
Types of Nonverbal Communication @ Lard Bucket
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY - "ody, or more frequently facial, movements that display a certain affective state, i.e. emotions. "
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
5 types of kinesics @ com101
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY - "ody, or more frequently facial, movements that display a certain affective state, i.e. emotions. "
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
5 types of kinesics @ com101
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Regulators
Types of Nonverbal Communication @ Lard Bucket
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton - "Regulators control the back and forth flow of speaking and listening."
5 types of kinesics @ com101
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Regulators uploaded by expertvillage
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton - "Regulators control the back and forth flow of speaking and listening."
5 types of kinesics @ com101
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Regulators uploaded by expertvillage
Adaptors
Types of Nonverbal Communication @ Lard Bucket
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
5 types of kinesics @ com101 - "Adaptors include postural changes and other movements at a low level of awareness, frequently made to feel more comfortable or to perform a specific physical function."
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication Tools : Non-Verbal Communication: Adapters uploaded by expertvillage
Adaptors by Cody Sodowsky on Prezi - Holiding, rubbing, pinching oneself,etc.
The use of self adaptors in stressful situations by Reid Lamy @ Academia.edu
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Kinesics @ LITERATURE STUDY
Kinesics - Body Movements: One of the Types of Nonverbal-Conversaton
5 types of kinesics @ com101 - "Adaptors include postural changes and other movements at a low level of awareness, frequently made to feel more comfortable or to perform a specific physical function."
Kinesics @ Creducation
Non-Verbal Communication Tools : Non-Verbal Communication: Adapters uploaded by expertvillage
Adaptors by Cody Sodowsky on Prezi - Holiding, rubbing, pinching oneself,etc.
The use of self adaptors in stressful situations by Reid Lamy @ Academia.edu
Non-Verbal Communication @ Stockton
Phonaesthetics
Zaum
Conversational constraints theory
Awkward silence
Rhetoric / Figures of speech / idioms
Understatement
Redundancy (linguistics)
Metathesis (linguistics)
Spoonerism
Quiet and delicate is better than obnoxious
ASMR is perfect for this. ASMR is a calm , soothing tone of voice known to calm a person down.
- ASMR Simulation: Cuddle time. by WhisperingRose (you can say these things to your partner, whispering helps)
- Check out Whipsering Rose's Youtube channel
- Check out McKenzie Alex's erotic ASMR channel
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Ideophone
Onomatopoeia
Nonverbal learning disorder
Some people have a harder time reading non-verbal cues (& that is okay) but putting these here because maybe sometimes people say things to others and those people have a hard time deciphering if it was a joke, or the emotion behind those words leading to feeling angry, or sad because they may think the other person is serious, or mad or happy when they are not. They may have a hard time expressing their emotions for other reasons than they simply do not want to, or are scared (which is their choice. their emotions, their choice to tell you & express them, or not)