It's funny that the porn industry (something that is ALL about looks and sexual performance) is all like "no matter what you look like, you are beautiful and sexy.We just feel lucky to be talking to you." "Everyone has sex differently, there is no wrong or right way to have sex.Everyone likes different things, just tell us and we will do it for you. It is fun to discover new things.Oh, you cum fast, that is okay. We can figure out a way to cum together. I will guide you and I can demand you cum fast so you feel less guilty about it."
but everyday life and society and hollywood (something that is supposed to be focused on how talented someone is and supposed to be focused on personality and what is on the inside , and unconditional love and acceptance) is all like "You have great talent, but too bad you don't starve yourself and get tons of surgery to look a certain way.We can't love or accept you with you being YOU." "If you have sex THIS way, you are wrong and disgusting. You need to have sex this many times, the way we tell you or you are a horrible disgusting person who needs to be medicated and fixed.Don't have sex TOO much though because then you are a slut who needs medicine and therapy.
Want to love yourself? visit porn sites. Enough with this "porn dehumanizes women." it doesn't. It actually is more accepting of all different bodies, sizes,etc.
Also, I am including meditations,new age influenced ideas, and DBT/CBT skills on here relating to NOT feeling guilty about overndulging in sex. When people use therapy to try to repress sexual desires when sex is natural and beautiful and people should not be made to feel bad when they have sex alot it makes me upset and ashamed of how or society shames such natural acts. I am also including my own spin on things from ideologies such as Hedonism, Hermeticism, free will, new age ideologies, Wiccan and other nature religions,etc.and how we are shamed to (forced) Chasity, celibacy/abstinence, etc (and not in the fun,consensual way).
but everyday life and society and hollywood (something that is supposed to be focused on how talented someone is and supposed to be focused on personality and what is on the inside , and unconditional love and acceptance) is all like "You have great talent, but too bad you don't starve yourself and get tons of surgery to look a certain way.We can't love or accept you with you being YOU." "If you have sex THIS way, you are wrong and disgusting. You need to have sex this many times, the way we tell you or you are a horrible disgusting person who needs to be medicated and fixed.Don't have sex TOO much though because then you are a slut who needs medicine and therapy.
Want to love yourself? visit porn sites. Enough with this "porn dehumanizes women." it doesn't. It actually is more accepting of all different bodies, sizes,etc.
Also, I am including meditations,new age influenced ideas, and DBT/CBT skills on here relating to NOT feeling guilty about overndulging in sex. When people use therapy to try to repress sexual desires when sex is natural and beautiful and people should not be made to feel bad when they have sex alot it makes me upset and ashamed of how or society shames such natural acts. I am also including my own spin on things from ideologies such as Hedonism, Hermeticism, free will, new age ideologies, Wiccan and other nature religions,etc.and how we are shamed to (forced) Chasity, celibacy/abstinence, etc (and not in the fun,consensual way).
- Psychology & BDSM: Pathology or Individual Difference? - "Why does psychiatry even concern itself with sexual behavior that is consensual and adult? Why label any such behavior "sick"? Urban anthropologist and founding LSM member Dr. Gayle Rubin has described the way society views sex by classifying sexual behavior as part of the "Charmed Circle of Sex" versus the "Outer Limits". Basically, society likes sex to be straight, married, monogamous, private, not-forhire, procreative, and vanilla. Some BDSMers manage to violate each and every one of those proscriptions - sometimes all at once! According to Rubin, society does its best to eradicate or suppress behavior on the "outer limits". We do this in several ways, including social and religious disapproval, legislation around sexuality, and classifying behavior as psychologically "sick" versus "healthy". Enter the role of psychiatry"
- Chakra oppression/oppression of things we do that are natural by WLI (updated march 2015)
- How food and sex are very similar
- How food and sex are similar: Diet Vs Abstinence pt 2
- Dieting vs Sexual Abstinence by WLI
- How Food & Sex are similar: abstinence, inducing and how we are labeled
- Why are we shamed for something so natural by WLI
- Food Lover Spectrum/Chart
- &&& More @ trello
- Brain/Stomach/Reproductive plushies from IHeartGuts
- Sex and Food Oppression...Chakra edition
- Chakra oppression/oppression of things we do that are natural by WLI (updated march 2015)
- Chunkealthy Diet - Sex & Food are similar @ Trello - oppression, shame, yet natural ,etc
- Sex & Food are similar series @ Trello
- Sex & Food are awesome and not shameful;here's why - resource list by WLI
- Celibacy Category @WoahlottaInfo (my blog)
- [Pic:] "Some people eat for comfort; some people have sex for comfort... stop promoting the guilt we put on people."
- "Get out of my bedroom ... stop telling me who I can and can't screw...stay out of my kitchen.. stop telling me how much I can eat" .. by WLI
- Celibacy,Dissing Asexuality-oppression =the same survival mindset as being tortured/12 stages of grief/same mindset as PTSD/ Body policing (1984 style) by WLI
- Watch THX 1138
- Asexuality,Alt.Attractions, etc. @ Calm Mind Open Heart - a person may be asexual. It doesn't mean they have to take pills to make them want sex.
Hypersexual disorder & Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (which is actually Asexuality but of course that is seen as a "disorder" . It doesn't mean a low sex drive which is usually the symptom of something else like depression or anxiety) is bullzhniz
This is just like diet culture. Telling you how much you should and shouldn't eat.
Some people have sex because it helps with emotions (scroll down)
Some people have sex because it is sexual and erotic to them (see "Foodual")
It's better than taking a zillion drugs that can harm you and hurt you
Have sex when you want to with whoever.You thinking it is bad and society telling you it's bad, is bad.
one of the "symptoms" of Hypersexual disorder is "feeling guilty after having sex " Reasons why people feel guilty after having sex too much are:
Society tells them to.
Don't. Everyone should not be a textbook case of something.People have sex.some people don't.They also shame others for having sex too much or not having it enough.
They feel like a "slut" for having it or "prude" if they don't want to.
- Slut shaming & Virgin Shaming
- Can you be both hypersexual and asexual ?
- **Is Sex Addiction Even a Real Thing? With David Pakman && Darrel Ray - Talks about how sex addiction is not real and how people make sex into a bad thing when it is just natural. It feels good. Excessive masturbation isn't the problem, it's why a person feels they must masturbate a lot. Are they having relationship problems?Body image issues? If everything is okay then masturbate and have sex all you want just make sure it is not covering up something else.
Senses - Sex "touches" our senses
DBT/CBT - use to not feel guilty
Free will ideology
Analytical psychology - embracing yourself.
- **Archetypes Jung's Archetypes By Kendra Cherry @ About(Dot)com- start at the basics as to what each are and while they are not related to sex, I am posting them.
Ego Death/New Age/Spiritual take on feeling guilty and to stop feeling guilty
- Compassion/Brahmavihara @ Calm Mind Open Heart - used for others, but you should also use it for yourself.
- Meditation @ my site Calm Mind Open Heart - use these exercises to help yourself feel calm and to not judge yourself and to stay in the moment afterwards and during.
- **What is the Id? By Kendra Cherry @ About (dot) com - f*ckand enjoy! or don't f*ck and be happy!
- **Id, Ego and Superego by Saul McLeod - why we suppress desires of something we enjoy. Society tells us it's "bad" and afraid to feel shame. We feel shame for having sex a lot even though we enjoy it so we don't do it.
Self body worship/ body intelligence/ meditations,mantras about not feeling guilt/guilty & self love
- Compassion/Brahmavihara @ Calm Mind Open Heart - used for others, but you should also use it for yourself.
- ASMR for self love @ Calm Mind Open Heart - don't judge yourself. Don't feel "bad," "disgusting," "shameful," etc.
- Positive talk/Self Love category @my site Calm Mind Open Heart