First set of tabs :Sacred sexuality // Love languages// Deep conversatins
Second set of tabs:Intimacy // Love Styles // Cuddle slut //in religion, mythology,etc.
Second set of tabs:Intimacy // Love Styles // Cuddle slut //in religion, mythology,etc.
BDSM & Tantric Sex
- Urban Tantra &barbara carrellas
- Bondassage® - "Our practitioners come to us with training in various modalities: Sensual Massage, BDSM, Tantra, Sexological Bodywork, Fetish, Taoist Erotic Massage, Kink, Reiki, Yoga and/or Domination"
- The Relationship Between BDSM and Ancient Tantra @ BDSM in the mind - "Many people are exploring BDSM because they are looking for more – more than the boring, vanilla world offers, more than the surface values of life, more awareness, more energy flow, more expansion, more bliss…I’ve seen that the BDSM world is one of most systematic, developed bodies of expertise in creating high energy levels, flow, expansion – but mostly in the first 3 chakras or energy centers in the human body."
- "Get out of my bedroom ... stop telling me who I can and can't screw...stay out of my kitchen.. stop telling me how much I can eat" .. by WLI
- Who is Eve Minax? - "Eve practices from a place of diversity and acceptance. She helps many clients of all persuasions develop and maintain long term connected relationships. Eve values the magic of Dominance and submission (D/s or Control/surrender) dynamics, and helps newcomers and seasoned alike navigate their relationships. For hands on work, she has studied and taught Urban Tantra with Barbara Carellas and is a certified Bondassage practitioner. On the psychological Eve studied and practices Dominance and submission with Sybil Holiday, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, (the other CBT), Relaxation and Mindfulness Techniques, and Non Violent Communication."
Love is spiritual
- Fall Out Boy – Twin Skeleton's (Hotel In NYC)
- Doting husband dies ‘of a broken heart’ day after wife passes away @ BT - "A devoted couple who were married for 55 years died within 21 hours of one another after the husband told his wife: ‘Close your eyes, I’m coming with you’.George, 77, from Middlesbrough, was seriously ill himself but refused to leave his beloved wife and as it became clear she was slipping away he held her hand and whispered those touching final words on Wednesday, November 19. The great-grandfather – a retired HGV driver known as ‘Rocky’ suffered a heart aneurysm just 21 hours later."
- "They say you’re crazy, Van Gogh. 'How could he cut off his ear and offer it to a whore?They forget that they’re the same. They forget that we’re all tearing our own selves apart and offering our bodies to those less than worthy,.."
- The Science of Love Paperback by John Baines
- What is a Worldview? [of love] by LoveVsLust's website - Talks about conditional love.
- What is an Adam & Eve root?
About/ info
Cute lovey dovey pics I have found online @ My facebook profile
- 7 Historical Symbols For The Vagina That Do It Justice @ Bustle
- The Sacred Sex Bible: A Guide to Sex and Spirit in the East and West by Cassandra Lorius - "a comprehensive illustrated guide to sex and spirituality, looks at historical and cultural currents in sexuality and the influence of Western and Eastern traditions, from pagan to Tantra. Cassandra Lorius includes examples of sexual practice and rituals along with exercises on breathing and visualization as pathways to sacred sex, or blissful union with the divine."
- Read/Do Luna Yoga: Vital Fertility and Sexuality by Adelheid Ohlig
- The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship: A Toltec Wisdom Book by Don Miguel Ruiz
- Check out the Hendricks Institute
- Creating Magical Relationships from AngelStarCreations
- check out Natrishka's Youtube channel / Reiki your yoni
- Check out My Tiny Secrets (dot) com
- The Science of Love Paperback by John Baines - one of the best books on this subject.
- The Mystery of the Golden Blossom, a book by Samael Aun Weor
- Check out Layla Martin's Youtube channel/The Sexy Revolution/ Obliss Course
- What does Crymax mean?
- Check out Kundalini2014's channel
- Jaiya- My Favorite Aphrodisiacs for Increased Pleasure, Energy and Libido
- Check out NewWorldSexEducation/ Jaiya'sYoutube channel
- Sensual Health elixirs @ Evolver Apothecary
- Ram Das/ Love Serve Remember Foundation/ podcasts, videos about love
- 5 Lies Single Christians Believe About Sex
- The Perfect Matrimony by Samael Aun Weor
- Enter the Divine Twin Ray Reunions: A message from Sananda
- Eros & Gnosis: A Gnostic Study of Human Sexuality
- Maca root and the breath of sex
- Praying Before Sex
DEITIES of sacred sexuality
Twin Flames
According to Edgar Cayce
Adam & Eve (Christian concept of Twin Flame)
Signs of reunited with Twin Flame
T.F relationships are very difficult
Adam & Eve (Christian concept of Twin Flame)
- Adam and Eve Twin Flames @ Ghost Writers in the Sky - “This individual soul than once again split, creating your individual twin flame, your other half. This action is symbolized by God taking a rib from Adam and creating Eve.”
- Twin Flames In Love @ Kelley Rosano - “The actual saga of Adam and Eve is about twin flames, for we all have our own Adam and Eve story. Somewhere in cosmos, each one of us has our very own divine other, who carries either the feminine or masculine polarity.”
- Why Twin Flames Matter @ Diamnd Lantern - “God realized that humans were lonely so he divided and pulled out the feminine side (not a rib) to create “couples” so that humans had either a feminine or masculine body. Whether feminine or masculine, both beings were equal. One half was the male body of consciousness and the other half was the female body of consciousness.”
- Twin Flame, Soul Mate, and Karmic Relationship @ Do The Work 6to7 - “The actual saga of Adam and Eve is about twin flames, for we all have our own Adam and Eve story. Somewhere in cosmos, each one of us has our very own divine other, who carries either the feminine or masculine polarity.”
- Twin Flames in History @ Shane Ka Divine Awakening - “God knew that when in Oneness there is no polarity and such complete experiencing of Unity, that little to nothing may be done, experienced, or conceived of. When the polarities are divided much can be created between the two polarities, the two aspects of consciousness... which is pleasing to God.In particular when the two polarities align well, when man and woman find their soul half and they become complete, they cleave and as 'one flesh'.
- Adam and Eve…. Twin Flames? - "This Bible story is the first creation story. This Bible story was the first story of twin flames. These twin flames were created as an ovoid of Light, sparks of Light of the Divinity. In their formation, God created them in his likeness and image, which was an androgynous being, complimentary polarities and yet whole. Each compliment carried the principles of Divinity, darkness/light, contracting/expanding, etc., they were twin flames in the image and likeness of God in the Beginning"
- The Twin Flame Reunions by Mary Mageau @ DailyOM - “But as the third dimensional experience unfolded they separated into a system of duality and became two distinct forms, one carrying the masculine (yang) attributes of the Creator, and the other the feminine (yin), both in the exact equal and opposite frequency intonation.”
- Twin Flames: Separation, Awakening & Soul Purpose : How Twin Flames came into being @ KEEN- “They are each other’s opposites (Yin and Yang) and each other’s most perfect self. “
- Twin Soul Relationships @ From The Stars - “The moment your soul was created it possessed male-female, ying-yang polarity and energy. God's love for you made sure that these two complimentary forms of consciousness, the masculine and feminine, would be bound together throughout eternity. “
- Twin Flame Relationships: When The Magic Hits the Fan @ Conscious Life News - “Twin flames represent the perfect yin-yang balance in both people. When they come together, it is usually a very challenging relationship full of emotional roller-coasters. The encounter can create havoc in one’s life.“
- Signs of Twin Flame And Soulmates — Twin Soul and Twin Flame Symptoms - Did You Know... - “ Yin and Yang are manifested constantly from the eternal motion of 1 universe. The movement of power or vibration in the end appears from both of these polar tendencies, yin and yang, that are antagonistic and complementary to each other. In turn, yin and yang would be the main manifestations of one Infinity or the greatest origin of all phenomena”.”
- Twin Flames @ Inspired Awareness - “ The moon regulates the pulling and pushing. You can compare it with the Yin and Yang symbol: Yin symbolizes the pulling, while Yang symbolizes the pushing, like day and night, man and woman, positive and negative. The Twin Flame connection is intensified during the pulling and pushing process.”
- The Science of Twin Flames @ Mickie Kent
- The Twin Flame Story @ Twin Flame Soulmates - “Throughout the universal experience, and as the third dimensional world of form unfolded the Twin Flame became separated into the current system of duality consciousness and became two distinct forms, one carrying the masculine or yang attributes of the Creator, and the other carrying the feminine or yin aspect of the creator. Both aspects are the exact equal and opposite frequency intonation”
- @ Love Peace and Harmony - “When you and your twin finally separated from each other, one twin polarized to the yin or female side and one twin polarized to the male or yang side. However, each twin half is neither solely yin or yang...”
- 20 Twin Flame Signs – Who is Your Mirror Soul? ⋆ LonerWolf - “You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.”
- How to Get Through The Ups and Downs of A Twin Flame Relationship @Before It's News - “In order to understand how a twin flame works, you need to look at the yin yang symbol.”
- @ Crystal Links - “The illusion of physical reality is created by electromagnetic energy - polarity, duality, opposites, male/female, yin/yang. When your soul enters physical reality, it splits in half - male and female - above and below - experiencing together simultaneously. Encoded in every soul is the need to reunite with that twin aspect, or to seek that energy out through a physical soulmate.”
- Higher self and guidance @ Twin Flames Hardcore - “he symbol of yin and yang applies to such individuals perfectly as they’ve/we’ve embraced and still balance both masculine and feminine energies within own bodies.”
- Twin Souls - Twin Flames @ Astrostar - “Kushi further states that "In the book of Genesis, we read, "In the beginning, God created heaven and earth". Revealing that One Infinity polarized itself into two complementary and antagonistic forces of yin and yang.”
- The Difference Between Twin Flames and Soul Mates @ Soul Science - “Twin flames are from the same soul group and have the same energetic blue print. The yin to your yang and the dark to your light.
- The Truth About Twin Flames by Lori Lines - “The experiences one has provides opportunity for the soul to experience polarities so that the yin and yang can balance and harmonize into Union with the Creator.”
- What is a Twin Flame or Twin Soul? @ Rantapallo“The twin soul/twin flame is a split energetic form that separates into yin and yang versions of itself. That yin/yang version spends many lifetimes looking for and discovering aspects of itself through connections with countless soulmates.”
- High Council of Atlantis Wisdom shares Twin Flame Knowledge @ Mama Foo The Light Worker - “ This is a Spiritual Awakening and happens when you re-unite with your TWIN FLAME Over Soul of joining the ALL of you of the initial yin and yang.”
- @In5d - “For instance, if you are female, or embody female characteristics, then your twin flame is comprised of male characteristics. You are perfect expressions of yin-yang energies. “
- @Iet Twin Flames Win - “ At this initial point of creation each single consciousness contains the seeds of the divine feminine and the divine masculine, alpha and omega, yin and yang, opposite poles of the one reality.”
- For those who were born lovers, falling in love is not neither an option nor a decision. It is a matter of existence".~Sameh Elsayed /Art by Liza Paizis
- [Pic:] When two souls fall in love,there is nothing else but the yearning to be close to the other..."
- "So I've brought you a mirror. Look at yourself and remember me." - Rumi
- *2nd image of woman holding her lover's heart* -"What a very strong image. I see a man, Holding his love. wrapping his arms around her. Protecting her. The blanket wrapped around her legs, curled up to him symbolizes him keeping her safe. Her comfort zone. His head leaned forward pressed against hers. He has a stake stabbed through his eye. He is mortaly wounded. He fought for her, to protect her, to win her love, and lost. Yet he continues to comfort her and keep her safe even after the fouls of his tries have failed. Hes protecting her. Consoling her. She is healthy, Safe, and has the ability to run at any time into the arms of another man. She has penetratedA his chest cavity and is holding his heart. For if she removes her hand, He shall go lifeless. She is keeping him alive, and he is keeping her alive. She knows she cant survive without him. She cant let him go. She cant remove her hand from the one person who has made so many sacrifices for her. She will never find another to love her as he does. He is her backbone. Protector, comforter, and best friend. For without each other, Both shall parish. A true image of love and a strong indication of how real love should be. Never Give up on true love." - John Meredith
- "Van Gogh swallowing yellow paint the way I swallow pills. ....They say you’re crazy, Van Gogh. 'How could he cut off his ear and offer it to a whore?They forget that they’re the same. They forget that we’re all tearing our own selves apart and offering our bodies to those less than worthy,.."
- [Pic:] " Every person you look at;you can see the universe in their eyes..."
- [Pic:]" We are all just humans, tiny specks of light and magic, yet we carry around hearts and potentials to love like Gods." - Anita Krizzan
- [Pic] "Have you ever been so wildly attracted to someone you could feel it actually driving you insane"
- [Pic:] "Real love is the one celebrating itself as the two." - Ram Dass
- [Pic:] "To love without condition To talk without intention to give without reason To care without expectation The spirit of true love."
- "Ancient loves believed a kiss would literally unite their souls..." - Eve Glickman
- "ecstasy, not words, is the language spoken here."- Rumi
Signs of reunited with Twin Flame
- 5 Keys To Identifying Your SoulMate by Touré Roberts
- Signs of the Twin Flame Relationship uploaded by Sapphyreopal5
- How Do I Know If I’ve Found My Twin Flame
- 14 Signs of a Twin Flame
- What Does It Feel Like: Signs of a Twin Flame Love
- How to Tell if You’ve Found Your Ultimate Soulmate, or Twin Flame… - "Upon meeting one’s twin it is said that there is an immediate connection and attraction toward each other. This is much like a love at first sight occurrence. Romeo and Juliet were said to be twin flames, meeting in inopportune situations and not being able to live without the other. The energy felt between twins is much like an explosion. Soul mates who are not twins will feel similar energy, but less intense and more steady and stable. This energy with the twin can be extremely intense and cause a whirlwind in one’s life."
- Signs and symptoms that you’ve met your Twin Flame
T.F relationships are very difficult
- Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Difficult? by Soulmate Psychic readings
- The Dark Night of The Soul Twin Flames - Why Twin Flames Run
- When the Twin Flame Kundalini rises and Souls merge – True story @ Mirror of My Soul - "The kundalini awakening also brings along many psychic experiences, such as pastlife memories, astral travel, awareness of chakras and auras, extrasensory perception, contact with spirit guides, dreams and visions, increased creativity (spiritual music, art, poetry etc.) and healing powers.""
- "The usual heart symbol that people use was actually meant to be two human hearts sewn together." False, but beautiful
- Twin Flames @Crystalinks
Why Twins Flames MUST Reunite in the Physical from AngelStarCreations - Sacred Sound Frequency of Twin Flame Unconditional Love by LIORA
- Patricia McNeilly's Youtube Channel
- Enter the Divine Twin Ray Reunions: A message from Sananda - "As all beings are created from the source substance, we are all a part of Mother/Father God. In the grand oneness of source there is creation upon creation of sparks of light. "
- "The meeting of 2 personalities is like ...chemical substances....both are transformed" Carl Jung
- Visions of the Heart
- The One True Twin- Flame
- Twin Flames and Soul Mates (Do they Exist?)
- Reuniting With Your Twin Flame - Guided Shamanic Meditation
- Twin Flames : Origin, Purpose and Relationships
- Karmic Relationships: Finding the Balance Within
- The One True Twin- Flame
- What Is a Twin Flame? Twin Flame Q & A by a Twin Flame Love Coach
- wins Flames - Crystallinks dot com
- Twin Flames - Twin Souls, Sexuality and the Ankh - Metaphysical and Scientific Insights
- Twin Flames
According to Plato/ The story of Zeus splitting us
Soul Mates
Soul Companion
& Zodiac signs
Freudian model of mate selection - we marry our parents.
- Children who marry their parents: the psychology of courtship | James Watkins: Hope & Humor - "Dr. Hendrix also believes that we marry someone with the same character flaws as our parents, in hopes that we can somehow solve unresolved issues of our childhood. For instance, both Lois and I came from homes which were not very demonstrative about voicing emotions—good or bad. So, we have worked hard at saying “I love you” to each other and to our kids. (I’ve even gotten to the point of hugging my parents.) In other areas, though, we haven’t coped that well. (We’re both terminally stubborn.) But understanding the tendency to marry someone to solve childhood issues has been helpful in seeing why we expect certain things from adult relationships.Other researchers believe we begin to fall in love even before we’re born. Here’s how they explain it: For nine months there was oneness between us and our mother. No “Mom” and “me,” only the warm, dark oneness of the womb.Even before we were pushed, kicking and screaming down that dark tunnel toward the bright light, we still viewed the world outside the womb as a part of ourselves. The hunger in our little tummies and the breasts that fulfilled that need were one. The need for comfort, protection, and dry bottom were one with the warm, caring blurs that came running at three o’clock in the morning to meet those needs...."
- Sigmund Freud and the Oedipus Complex @ After psychotherapy
- Children use opposite sex parent as template for a partner
- Freud Was (Half) Right About Incest @ Live Science
& Pheromones
Help us find our mate, but maybe we are drawn to one another smells because they are perfectly mixed to be together?
Scientific "proof" of twin flames
- Florence + The Machine - Strangeness and Charm (Lyrics) uploaded by D. Wells // @Genius
- "The meeting of 2 personalities is like ...chemical substances....both are transformed" Carl Jung
- "Neuron that fire together....higher consciousness by ...love." - Deepak Chopra
- "I have this weird theory that some people are drawn to each other because their atoms were near each other when the universe was created and over time the same atoms keep coming back together" - - Saddeer @ Tumblr
Kundalini sexual energy
Sexual Magic
- Sex Magic Alchemy – The Divine O - "Once you experience these eternal rites of passage you will wonder how you could ever go back. Through erotic rituals and specific meditations, creating sacred sexual space, oils, chanting or visualizing symbols, can alter your consciousness and channel the energy of orgasmic bliss for healing, ecstasy, or even enlightenment.
- What is Sexual Magic? Gnosis Teachings (dot) com
- What the heck is Sexual Magic - Gnosic version
- Check out Sacred Magik: The Esoteric Library
Sexual Alchemy
Astral Sex
Tantric Sex
- Philosophy of Tantra, Tantric Sex @ Space and Motion - "Through slow and thoughtful practice in lovemaking techniques you would learn to comfortably extend the time of lovemaking. In this way you would train yourself to be aware of not only your own feelings but also those of your partner. The spiritual part of tantra is to use your sexual energy to merge ecstatically with your partner and through him or her to become one with the cosmos or god."
- Who is / check out Charles Muir & The Source of Tantra
- Check out Tantra Love Guide/Who is Leah Alchin?
- Soul Sex Tantra for Two by Al Link
- The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex, by Dr. Judy Kuriansky - One of the best books on Sacred/Tantric sex. Doesn't use tantric sex as a gimmick, tells the background of the practice,etc. (unlike a popular magazine *cough* Cosmo )
- **Tantric Therapy - Mindful Masturbation Part 1
KamaSutra / Kamashastra
entrainment/ interjection locking
- What is injection locking/Entrainment? (we are all synchronized in some way with each other)
- Symphony of Science - 'We Are All Connected' (ft. Sagan, Feynman, deGrasse Tyson & Bill Nye)
- “We are all connected....."-Neil deGrasse Tyson
Sacredness of orgasm
- Orgasm is the tantric release of the joyful sacred power of th - Page 1 @ Mars Venus
- The Sacred Purpose Of Orgasm | MyTinySecrets - Sacred Orgasm draws pure souls...Your orgasm is an exact expression of your consciousness...Massive deep sacred orgasmic wave fields.”
- Tantric sexuality as a path to ecstasy - the personal experience of a tantric couple - Natha Yoga International - “ The lovemaking experience becomes an opportunity to explore the mysterious land of ecstasy, overwhelming happiness, pure blissful joy, and super sensual games. The feeling of love in a couple is strengthened by the controlled orgasm. Instead of being an exhausting experience, orgasm with continence reveals its sacred meaning.”
- @Spirit Bible - “The absolute essential element is that, "Your orgasm is an exact expression of your consciousness. If the man wants to enjoy the full and subtle nuances of Sacred Orgasm, he must patiently, sweetly, lovingly, and deliberately lift the frequencies of his lover. The fact is that when a woman generates massive deep sacred orgasmic wave fields based on his efforts, so will her partner. Their union will prolong his orgasm with hers.""If he allows himself, he will be able to tune into her experiences, which he himself has fired and augmented. He will be carried away in the Bliss of their mutually created bliss, the cosmic waves of the true sacred orgasm."The so-called "little death" becomes, instead, a "HOLY WOW!”
- The Sacred Orgasm @ Jacqueline L. Robinson - “That’s how it feels, my loves, the Sacred Orgasm. It’s all about being in the moment, the deep space where the heartbeat of life comes to find you and overcomes your entire being. No longer do I give this away, unaware of its Sacred Presence. The eruption is mine alone, to harness and allow to flow forth from every crevice.”
- The Sacred Orgasm ~ by LIORA uploaded by LIORA
- The Sacred Purpose Of Orgasm @ My Tiny Secrets
Sexual energy transfer between people (Sexual Chi / QI)
Exchange of Power (Not TPE which is for BDSM)
- Exchange of Power - "when a man truly loves a woman she becomes his weakness. When a woman truly loves a man he becomes her strength"
Conscious Sensuality
SPIRITUAL sexual connection
hieros gamos
Maithuna
Sexual yoga (Karmamudrā)
Amrita (Female Ejaculation)
- Healing Magic of Amrita (Female Ejaculation) — Tantric Alchemy -”Amrita is in fact referred to as the sweet nectar as it was drunk by the Gods and used as a potent and powerful healing & transformational medicine...“
- Amrita - The Divine Nectar: Exploring Female Ejaculation @ WhyAreWeWhispering.com - “Anyone can “ejaculate,” or “squirt,” but the goddess in women releases her amrita...“We use our power of intention to imprint our amrita. This requires creative visualization, a focused mind, and deep, slow breathing. It is by this “knowing” that our natural body fluids become a “medicine” for healing and high magic. Thus, a woman accesses her own spiritual priestess to emerge during this pleasurable event.”
- Kamala Devi's Personal Experience of Amrita (Squirting or Gushing) @Kamala Devi - “In Sanskrit, Amrita translates to the nectar of the gods which is believed to bring about healing and immortality. Amrita is also a favored term for female ejaculate, otherwise known as squirting or gushing, in the tantra community.
- @Tantric Joy - “Amrita. "Divine Nectar." Sanskrit term for female ejaculate.... In Tantra Amrita is considered to be a powerfully healing substance.”
- G-Spot Stimulation @ Qtantra- “ The amrita is extremely nutritious to us both physically as well as spiritually. It's infused with energy to rejuvenate our tired and aging bodies and lift our spirits. It has healing powers in it that cleanse the psyche - thus healing very deep seated wounds and traumas”
- Biology of Kundalini - The Crystal Palace
- Leah Alchin: Amrita Female Ejaculation uploaded by SourceTantraYoga
cosmic orgasm
- Four Levels of Cosmic Orgasm @ Fearless Press
- COSMIC ORGASM IS REAL @ Dragon Performance Coaching - “ cosmic orgasm occurs when we are centered in our body AND connected to the center of the earth AND connected to the center of the galaxy. when we are connected and integrated in this way, the energy that flows thru you is the energy that enlivens the earth and the galaxy and the universes. this is when you can experience oneness with All.in cosmic orgasm, the continuous vibration that you emit is the vibration that brings life to everything in the interconnected universe. the feeling that comes from this integrated connection is like nothing else.”
- Cosmic Orgasm @ Satra Shita - "Because of three basic elements in sex you come to a blissful moment. Those three are: Firstly, Timelessness...Secondly, You Become Egoless...Thirdly, the Unreal is Lost..”
- Spiritual Sex: The Art Of The Multidimensional Orgasm @ Huffington Post - “Spiritual Union which is the ecstatic expanded experience producing altered states of consciousness. It encompasses the “cosmic orgasm:” the timeless, boundless state where orgasmic waves move through all the energy centers. ”
- COSMIC ORGASM through TANTRA ~~ @ Sacred Dreams - “~Firstly, Timelessness....~Secondly, You Become Egoless...Thirdly, the Unreal is Lost...”
- Spiritual Concepts @ HiddenMysteries - “The ancient cultures understood that sexual pleasure was a wonderful way to connect with spirit and renew life, as well as to unite deeply with another. The life force energy was perceived as a pulsing spiral. This spiral of energy moves up and down our bodies, through all the energy centers (called chakras in Sanskrit) in a continuous, pulsing current. In essence, we are plugged into a cosmic "electric outlet" through the energy center near the top the head
Yoni & lingham
Techniques
- Kama Sutra, Kunyaza & Karezza: Exotic Sex Techniques@ Pleasure Mechanics - "When we look at these practices, here are a few patterns that emerge: slowing down and focusing on warm up, especially for female pleasure.stimulating the clitoris and introitus before alternating shallow and deep plunges.using circular motions on the first few inches of the vagina to stimulate the g-spot.after penetration, holding still inside. The female can explore using muscles to grip penis inside, or just hold still and focus on full body touch and kissing. exploration of sexuality as creative energy"
Kunyaza
- Kunyaza, the secret to female orgasm - Afrik-news.com - “Afrik-news.com : You claim that kunyaza could become as popular as the French kiss ? Nsekuye Bizimana : When i was young, the French kiss was not very known. Only a few people practised it. But in recent times, most Africans practice the French kiss. About a hundred years ago, the French kiss was practised by a few persons even in Europe. This is prove that a method which produces good results spreads to the four corners of the earth”
- Kunyaza or the African secret to the female orgasm @ Gabrielle Moore - “It’s basically a really intense of a woman’s private parts. You have to tap the internal area of your girlfriend’s vagina with the tip of your penis either vertically or horizontally, or both, however you feel like it. Don’t forget to pay attention to the clitoris also, but make sure she is well lubricated, otherwise she might find the tapping on her most sensitive zone disturbing. If you do it well, your girlfriend should be able to have an orgasm in approximately five minutes.”
- Kunyaza: An Afrikan Sexual Technique @ Seba Damani - “To clarify the essential technique, Kunyara combined both internal and external stimulation, with rhythmic, yet slow and sensuous movements that are adjusted to the response of the woman. Men must be careful not to irritate their penis because of the woman's public hair. In fact, many practitioners of Kunyaza remove the woman's pubic hair.’
- Kunyaza: African secret to female orgasm @ Love Matters - “The man takes hold of his penis and uses the head to tap the woman’s clitoris, labia and vaginal opening.He can move the rhythmic tapping around the vulva in circular or zigzagging movements. The tapping can be varied with rubbing, also using the tip of the penis.”
- Kunyaza, Sex Trick That Trigger Woman’s Orgasm In Five Minutes – Red Pepper Uganda - “Both parts of the clitoris may also be stimulated by using a zigzagging motion from the root of the body to the bottom of the glans and back again.Initially the striking may be painful because the area is not yet lubricated.In this case, the woman should moisten it with her saliva.”
- @Wikipedia
Pompoir
Don't go crazy trying to practice this.... use your partner for practice. I'm sure he will not mind
- @wikipedia - “Pompoir (also known as "playing the flute", and "the Singapore grip" ) is a sexual technique in which the woman uses her vaginal muscles to stimulate the man's penis. Both partners remain still, and the woman strokes the man's erection by rhythmic, rippling pulses of the pubococcygeus muscles, so this practice is best performed in a woman on top position.”
- POMPOIR…the fine art of “milking” his lingam with your yoni @ Divine Tantric Touch! - “While both partners are still, the woman grips and massages her man’s erection with rhythmic, rippling contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (PC) and other pelvic floor muscles. (This rippling effect occurs during an intense orgasm in a woman.) The rippling causes a kind of milking action felt by the lingam...Short squeeze...Long squeeze...Pull-in, push-out....The elevator...”
- Tantra with Suzie Heumann: Pompoir @ Enlightened Sex - “Once you’ve got Kegel exercises down, surprise him during lovemaking with “The Squeeze.” Vary the sensations by exploring thrusting patterns that incorporate shallow and deep penetration along with the gripping and letting go.”
- @ Tantra Ecstasy - “In order to practice pompoir, your PC and pelvic floor muscles must be trained to improve their strength and performance. Locate the PC muscles by inserting a finger into your yoni and trying to squeeze your finger. Make sure you’re not also tensing your thighs, buttocks, or anal muscles. “
- @ Urban Dictionary - “Use of the vaginal muscles to milk the penis...Also, "The strength of a woman's vaginal muscles count much more than the size of her vagina. In Asia & elsewhere, skilled female lovers developed their PC muscles to the point where they could grip, milk, & make any man's penis orgasm without any other movement.”
- Give Your Man a 'Supergasm' He'll Never Forget @ The Stir - “Basically you stradle over your man and use your vaginal and pubococcygeous muscles to stimulate him. You're doing Kegels while having intercourse -- but it's so much more than that!....The technique also involves "squeezing, pushing, and pulling" the penis. "That's where they learn the sexual skills to the point where they can twist the penis just by moving their pelvic muscles." “
- The Ancient But Largely Forgotten Technique Women Can Do to Give Supergasms @ Alternet - Pompoir is best practiced with the woman on top. This allows women to straddle their partners and stimulate the penis through muscle contractions alone. No thrusting or rocking necessary.”
- The Ancient But Largely Forgotten Technique Women Can Do to Give Supergasms @ Alternet = "By doing contractions, squeezing, pushing and pulling the ladies learn how to manipulate the pelvic muscles. That’s where they can learn the sexual skills to the point where they can twist the penis just by moving their pelvic muscles. It’s reported to be an amazing sensation...The pull ability allows women to “suck the penis” into the vagina, the expel ability similarly allows them to push it out. Then there’s the lock ability, where females clench down on the penis to hold it in place. The list goes on. There’s the gripping ability, the pulse ability, the squeeze ability, the twist ability, which all more or less entail what their names suggest."
- Pompoir - The Ultimate Guide To Pelvic Fitness by Da Costa @ Amazon - “Pelvic Exercises that shows results! Build strong, tighter and healthy PC Muscles, with the advantage of learning how to control and manipulate your PC Muscles! The result? You take charge of your intimacy, gain mind blowing sexual skills as you work out with Pompoir. No more getting stuck with pelvic exercises that don't show results. Pompoir - The Ultimate Guide to Pelvic Floor Fitness, has an easy-to-learn, Personal Training Program that helps you achieve your pelvic exercise goals. Learn more at www.pompoirbook.com, including how to sign up for one-on-one coaching and which products to purchase for your exercises.
Kabazzah
^Similar to Pompoir except you include abdominal muscles.
Karezza
- There is More to Sex Than Orgasms @ EverydayHealth.com - “Karezza is intercourse without orgasm, including everything from sensual touch to manual to oral sex. The intimacy, sensuality and exploration of sex is enjoyed, however, orgasm itself is avoided.”
- Method Karezza, the pleasure of sex without orgasm | Diseases and conditions : Didactic Encyclopedia - “The Karezza method is an erotic technique in which prevails the sensuality, which focuses on encouraging each other in order to prolong the pleasure without orgasm. In reality, more than a new form of sexual intercourse, is naming something recommended by experts on sexuality long ago: that the couple to enjoy the sexual encounter without haste, prolonging the most pleasure, and feel pressured to achieve orgasm.The term Karezza originates from the Italian word carezza, which means touch, and reflects very well what is this sexual experience, which is based on the exchange of kisses, caresses, hugs, oral sex, massage, smiles and looks accomplices, all in order to enjoy to the fullest and to strengthen the affective and emotional links between the members of the couple.”
- Love and Happiness: Karezza Explored @ Keeper of balance - “By practicing Karezza, if a man learns how to navigate along this pleasurable plateau phase, or even slightly above it, while remaining cool, monitoring the sensation in his penis without building up sexual tension, then he can ride this plateau for a long time (hours). It is worth mentioning, however, what we’ve emphasized before: a man would do well making a firm decision to avoid the goal of ejaculation and orgasm completely if he wants to become a successful Karezza lover. As long as “release” is still an option in his mind, that innate mating sex program will occasionally urge him to go over the edge. It takes a strong commitment to stop masturbating, ejaculating and pursuing orgasms in favor of the enormous rewards available through Karezza sex.”
- What is Karezza Sex & How To Do It @ Alpha Male Clinics - “So, how would you ask your partner to do Karezza? The key to this sexual activity is taking it slow. Focus on pleasing your partner by touching and kissing her body parts like neck and ears. Lovemaking should be slow and gentle, according to the experts proposing Karezza. When things heat up, you must take it slow and easy so that the arousal drops down immediately as well.You may want to practice Karezza sex for three weeks, then having conventional sex or intercourse with an orgasm on the fourth week.”
- Hold the orgasm, please – the Karezza technique @ Go Ask Alice! - “Hopefully it won't be hard for you to learn Karezza, a lovemaking technique of "gentle intercourse" in which affection, connection, and relaxation are the goals, rather than orgasm. Karezza is a variation of an Italian word, meaning caress. As its name implies, it's comprised of activities like gentle stroking, spooning, skin-to-skin contact, and occasional gentle intercourse. Some evidence suggests this practice has been used for millennia, dating back to a Daoist practice called dual cultivation.Karezza practitioners believe that great sex is not defined by orgasm, but instead by feelings of connection, bonding, and relaxation”
- The Karezza Method by J. William Lloyd @ Sacred Text.com
- Karezza in Four Easy Steps (for men) | Reuniting
- What Is Karezza? @ Reuniting -
- The Karezza Method: The Woman's Part in Karezza @ Sacred Texts - “There is a physical help which the woman may render at the very outset which is important. It often happens at the beginning of penetration that the labia, one or both of them, are infolded, or pushed in, acting as an impediment and lessening pleasure or causing a disagreeable sensation. If the woman, before penetration begins, will, with her fingers, reach in and open wide the lips, drawing them upward and outward the fullest extent, she will greatly facilitate entrance, and if she will several times repeat this during the Karezza, each time drawing the inner labia outward, while her partner presses inward, it will be found greatly to increase the contact surface and conscious enjoyment, giving a greater sense of ease and attainment.”
- Lovers' Ultimate Sex Hack: Karezza @ Your Brain On Porn - “Karezza definitely takes a bit of getting used to, however. You have to learn to stay back from the edge of orgasm—unless you want genital congestion. (If you learn this the hard way, cold water should ease the pain.)”
- Karezza Techniques @ Lucky Mojo - “1) Each sex act should be preceded by some form of spiritual dedication, similar to the traditional Hindu puja ceremony in intent, but adapted to American cultural needs. She recommended writing love letters and making "dates," spending at least an hour before making love away from the children, lighting candles, sharing a glass of wine, reading poetry, and other common adjuncts of romance -- up to and including maintaining separate bedrooms so that each sex act would be obviously intentional and not merely a prelude to going to sleep.2) If a couple did not want more children, they should not have orgasms during the woman's fertile time. (Remember, there were no birth control pills or diaphragms when she first wrote -- and condoms were illegal.)3) Orgasm must be under volitional control. The accomplishment of orgasm should only occur when it resulted from "overflow" of the basin of desire. How often this happened was left to the discretion of the individuals.”
sacred spot
Male sacred spot (prostate)
- Male G Spot & Prostate Therapy @ Goddess Temple - “Issues of sexual abuse, abandonment and even rejection, can be accessed through the sexual center. Issues dealing with securities, finances, and commitment reside in the muladhara or root chakra, located at the base of the spine. Loving energy and focused intention help to bring these centers into harmony, heal any wounds from the opposite sex, and increase your capacity to feel pleasurable sensation.”
- Podcast Episode: Expanded Lovemaking: The Inner Secrets of Sacred Spot Massage with Charles Muir and Leah Alchin (Sex, Love, and Consciousness
- “Prostate Massage Techniques : How to Give an Amazing Tantric Male Massage uploaded by supersexyloving
- How to massage a man's prostate gland or "sacred spot" @ White Lotus East
- How To Do Sacred Spot Work For Men @ Raw Attraction Magazine - “Ancient Indian tantric texts refer to this gland as the ‘sacred spot’, the center of a man’s emotions and sexuality, containing deep feelings of acceptance.There are many benefits to sacred spot work. These include: Enhanced spiritual experiences (as above), opening up the feminine pole to be more receptive and in a state of surrender, heightening and intensifying orgasmic experiences, and it also helps with premature ejaculation.”
- supersexyloving
- Male Sacred Spot Massage – Tantra Massage in Toronto and Niagara Falls @ The Sacred Spot “The experience begins with a short bath ritual, followed by energetic and vigorous touch. This is done to ease any initial anxiety and in preparation for the internal massage. Starting with a gentle massage of the perineum and slowly moving to the sacred spot will stimulate an inner relaxation causing the hip and adductor muscles to relax and butterfly. While holding this space and increasing breath-work a “ballooning” can be felt inside the pelvic floor area.”
- Sacred Spot Massage: The male prostate gland aka his G-spot @ Xy Factors - “To begin this massaging position, the receiver assumes a seated position, while bare-ass naked, with his back at a 45 to 65 degree angle and supported by large firm pillows. This position should be comfortable for the receiver and allow the giver an unobstructed view as well as unfettered access to the receiver’s genitals and anus. The giver can either sit cross-legged or kneel in front of their receiving partner as they massage their partner’s lower extremities; the abdomen in particular. The receiver may choose to close their eyes at first, but it’s important for the couple to maintain eye contact as the massage progresses. It’s the giver’s decision to decide when the receiver is sufficiently aroused and relaxed. At this point, the giver slips on the latex surgical glove and lubes up their partner’s anus. This process should be ceremonial as well as lengthy as the main objective is to relax and pleasure the nervous rosebud. “
- Tantressa Vega @ Tantress Avega
- Tantra: Gateway to Ecstasy: Healing Your Man with Tantric Male G-Spot Massage @ tantra Ecstasy - “When your partner is ready, insert a lubricated index finger into his anus until you reach the prostate gland, which feels like a small, round bulb of tissue roughly the size of a walnut. Gently massage the male G-spot (prostate gland) along its sides. Do not massage the central (top) area because it contains several sensitive nerves. Gradually increase the finger pressure. Then expand the massage to the surrounding muscles on both sides. You may need to change hands or adjust your position. These muscles, which may be sore and hard at first, will release their tension and soften dramatically with continued massage.”
- Tantric Holistic Massage @ Sacred Sex Secrets - “The main purpose of this ritual is to awaken the tremendous pleasure potential which is held in the male prostate gland. The prostate is the door to a man’s full orgasmic potential. The prostate is also called sacred spot which is the male equivalent of the female sacred or G Spot. Unfortunately a great number of heterosexual males have considered this part of their body off-limits. This attitude is often the direct result of homophobic anal retentive cultures which propagate that – if a man enjoys pleasure through his anus he must be gay!”
Female sacred spot
- Male G Spot & Prostate Therapy @ Goddess Temple - “I’m fond of saying that an afternoon of sacred spot work is like two years of talk therapy. Sacred spot massage and manipulation is a healing modality that can be used to clear emotional blocks in women. With proper instruction, a woman may move quickly and powerfully through the issues that prevent her from exuberantly enjoying her sexual, sensual nature. There is also the potential for experiencing full-body orgasm.”
- Sacred Spot Massage @ Source Tantra - “The spot does not lie on the vaginal wall itself, but can be felt through it. It is usually about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the cervix and feels like a small lump that swells as it is stimulated. “
- Healing Magic of Amrita (Female Ejaculation) — Tantric Alchemy - “Women's sacred spot, (the g-spot) is; as the name suggests - sacred. ... It this spot however is where we hold so much of the guilt shame fear around sexuality and our femininity...”
- Sacred Spot Healing @ Sacred spot Healing - “The Sacred Spot (also known as the G-spot) is an area of sensitive tissue on the front wall of the yoni behind the pubic bone. It is considered a powerful chakra that opens when a woman is ready to accelerate her Shakti energy into higher dimensions of conscious expansion.”
- The Sacred Spot: A Complete Tantra Yoga Guide to Female Sexual Healing & Awakening | Yoga - Buy
5 Love Languages
If I need reassurance but my boyfriend or girlfriend is giving me that reassurance in a way that makes sense to them, but not to me how can I feel reassured. No one is perfect and we should not have expectations of how someone shows their love However, this is for how people show their love. Cute gifts would be great for someone whose love language is receiving gifts (expectations come in when someone expects a perfect letter and gets something that isn't that great and gets mad and upset about it). This guy who wrote this is a Christian author, but if you're not a Christian just don't pay attention to when he talks about God. If you are expressing your love and your partner doesn't feel secure because his or her love language is different, that is not helping someone who is extra sensitive or fears abandonment. In their mind they are not loved and do not feel secure. Try this and see if it works.. Maybe they are fulfilling your love language in some way, but you are not fulfilling theirs therefore, you feel secure but they do not.
If I need reassurance but my boyfriend or girlfriend is giving me that reassurance in a way that makes sense to them, but not to me how can I feel reassured. No one is perfect and we should not have expectations of how someone shows their love However, this is for how people show their love. Cute gifts would be great for someone whose love language is receiving gifts (expectations come in when someone expects a perfect letter and gets something that isn't that great and gets mad and upset about it). This guy who wrote this is a Christian author, but if you're not a Christian just don't pay attention to when he talks about God. If you are expressing your love and your partner doesn't feel secure because his or her love language is different, that is not helping someone who is extra sensitive or fears abandonment. In their mind they are not loved and do not feel secure. Try this and see if it works.. Maybe they are fulfilling your love language in some way, but you are not fulfilling theirs therefore, you feel secure but they do not.
- @ Wikipedia - "Your chosen love language is the way that you would most like to receive love from your companion. Chapman's book claims that the list of five love languages is exhaustive. Chapman argues that, emotionally, people need to receive love and uses the metaphor of a 'love tank' to explain peoples' need to be loved. He also writes that people should not use the love languages that they like the most but rather the love languages that their loved ones can receive. Each person has one primary and one secondary love language."
- Dr. Gary Chapman Explains The 5 Love Languages @ Verily - "Rarely do couples share the same love language. I don’t recommend giving up on a relationship because of this difference, however, it can create an atmosphere of frustration when you think you are doing a good job at expressing your love and yet the other person is not feeling loved. If you don’t understand the love language concept, then you really “don’t know what else to do.” If however, you understand that they speak a different language, then you can learn to speak that language."
- Official site - Has a test for couples to find out their languages, study guides,etc.
- 5 Romantic Ideas For Each Of The 5 Love Languages @ Engaged Marriage
- How to Speak Your Spouse's Love Language (and What to Avoid) @ Fierce Marriage
- Can love survive gift-givers who speak different languages? @ Chicago Tribune - “Still, Chapman's book clearly says you don't have to speak the same language as your partner — you just have to know how to speak your partner's language. So a "Gifts, meh" and a "Gifts, heck, yeah" can peacefully co-exist, even during the gifting jubilee that is the holidays.”
- The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman @ About (dot) com - " you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions: How do I express love to others? What do I complain about the most? What do I request most often?However, speaking in your partner's love language will most likely not be natural for you. Dr. Chapman cautions in his book, "We're not talking comfort. We're talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough." We must step out of our comfort zone meet each other's emotional needs."
- 5 WAYS TO SHOW YOUR PARTNER YOU LOVE THEM from Spirit Science
- Love Languages @ The 5 Love Languages® FAQ - " If Physical Touch is your spouse’s language and you are not by nature a “toucher,” begin with such small things as putting your hand on the shoulder of your spouse as you pour the cup of coffee or give a “love pat” on the shoulder as you walk by. These small touches will begin to break down the barrier. Each time you touch, the next touch will be easier. You can become proficient in speaking the language of Physical Touch.The same is true with the other languages."
Words of affirmation
- The Best Way to Speak to a Partner Whose Love Language Is Words of Affirmation @ Verily
- The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman - Words of Affirmation uploaded by William Mize @ YouTube
- 103 Words of Affirmation Every Husband Wants to Hear by Matthew L. Jacobson // 102 Words of Affirmation Every Wife Wants to Hear by Matthew L. Jacobson
- 5 Love Languages Words of Affirmations @ True Agape Newlywed Blog
- The Little Things @ Nurturing Marriage - "All sarcasm aside, if words of affirmation is your spouse’s love language and not yours, it may take some time (and frustrating experiences) to learn how to communicate properly. Here are some tips for you sweet souls:"
- 11 Things You Need To Know Before You Date Someone Whose Love Language Is ‘Words Of Affirmation’ | Thought Catalog
- Words of Affirmation Every Relationship Needs to Hear @Mother's Niche
- Language of Love #1: Words of Affirmation @ A Nugget of Joy - "Another way of showing this language of love is to give words of encouragement “to inspire courage”. Your spouse should be your greatest cheerleader and inspiration! Don’t put your spouse down. Even if you feel that an idea that is brought up is really silly, don’t slam it. Offer your opinions, walk through the idea together and if possible, help to refine the idea.Kind words should be used to communicate love. The manner in which you speak and the tone you take is important. You should never be careless with your words, no matter how angry you are"
- What's Your Love Language? Words of Affirmation @ Nels Nook - Humble words are described as making requests by affirming your partner's talents. Its easy to say "you never cook dinner any more!" but that might not be well received. Instead something like "I love the baked chicken you make, can I request that some time soon?". Its the same message - you want dinner to be cooked - but it will be received in very different ways. One that happens in my house all of the time "I love your cookies" with a sheepish grin - that's my hint that my partner wants some chocolate chip cookies. Humble words are kind of a three for the price of one because 1) you are giving a compliment and when your partner does what you requested 2) they are showing you love and 3) you can compliment and thank them. "
- Words of Affirmation and Quality Time @ #staymarried - "If your spouse’s primary Love Language is Words of Affirmation, here are some things you can do to show love: – Say “I love you” and “Please” and “Thank You” every day.– Be specific when you compliment them. Instead of, “You look nice,” you could say, “I love your hair like that!”– Say nice things about them to other people. It usually gets back to them and then you get double points!– Don’t forget to write something special in the card that goes with the gift.– Think of sticky notes as a pack of hundreds of inexpensive love notes and use them often.– Express appreciation for the things they do and the strengths you see in them."
- The Best Way to Speak to a Partner Whose Love Language Is Words of Affirmation @ Verily - 01. Humility 02. Gratitude & Appreciation 03. Encouragement 04. Empathy 05. Respect & Admiration
- How to Love Your Words of Affirmation Partner (Love Language Practical Tips, Part 3) @PreEngaged.com - Cards. Loving Compliments.Bragging to others.
- Words of Affirmation Examples and top tips for this Love Language @Hub Pages
Acts of service
- "If you love something, love it completely. Cherish it, say it..." by Collective Evolution
- [Pic] Idea: Note Jar. Pink - I love you, Purple - Remember when, White-We're doing this.
- Pink Went To Lengths To Get Carey Hart Back!*may trigger*
- 5 WAYS TO SHOW YOUR PARTNER YOU LOVE THEM from Spirit Science
- [Pic:] "I literally crave affection.It's not about sex..."
- First dance/song picture idea
- Bedroom Design - "I Do" soundwaves on wall
- [Pic:] "Hugging me from behind and issing my neck at the same time is a good way to melt my heart." from Flirtationship...
- Acts of Service @ Pathways to Organization - "2.If service is yours, carefully explain to your husband that when he helps you (vacuum the house, change diapers, cooks, clean) you feel loved!"
- 11 Things You Need To Know Before You Date Someone Whose Love Language Is ‘Acts Of Service’ | Thought Catalog
- Showing Him You Care When His Love Language Is Acts of Service @ Verily - 01 Cover the bill 02.Help with chores 03. Pack Lunch/Make dinner 04. Use your strengths 05. Think of the little things
- Acts of Service @ The 5 Love Languages® - "When I talk about acts of service as an expression of love, I am not talking about being a slave. When we treat our spouses as sHow to Love Your Acts of Service Partner (Love Language Practical Tips, Part 4) - PreEngaged.comlaves, we remove the possibility of love because we remove their freedom. “If you were a good spouse, you would do this for me” is not the language of love. “You will do this, or you’ll be sorry” is manipulation, not love. If acts of service are to be acts of love, they must be freely given. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love."
- Acts of Service uploaded by William Mize
- How to Love Your Acts of Service Partner @ PreEngaged.com -Help with chores. Serve. Pamper.Offer help when he or she is feeling insecure.
- Start Marriage Right / I Cleaned the Toilet for You: Speaking Love through Acts of Service @ Start Marriage Right - "And the wife’s lackadaisical attitude about the quality of her tasks was in part a survival mechanism against an exhausting and seemingly unachievable feat, but it was largely a protection from feeling like her “I love you” was always being rejected. It was also subconsciously in an effort to leave something for her husband to do for her because she needed to be loved with Acts of Service too."
- Acts Of Service @ Reach for the Sky - "02....Cut out some heart-shaped note cards and print the following:”Today I will show my love for you by…” Complete the sentence with one of the following: mowing the lawn, vacuuming the floor, washing the dishes, taking the dog for a walk, feeding the baby, etc.... 06. If your spouse’s requests for act of service come across as nags or put-downs, try writing them in words that would be less offensive to you. Share this revised wording with your spouse. For example, “Honey, I love you so much. You are a hardworking man and I really appreciate you. I’d love to thank you in advance for mowing the lawn this week before Thursday when Mary and Bob come over for dinner.” Your husband might even respond: “Where is the lawn mower, I can’t wait!” Try it and see."
- Top 10 Acts of Service to Make Your Partner Feel Loved @ TwoOfUs.org - "04.Fix things that the other can't fix...10.Go to the grocery store and buy items you know he/she loves—without being asked."
- What are some things you can do for your husband? Acts of service. @ Weddingbee - forum post.
- 101 Acts of Service @An Exercise in Frugality - "I’ve been working lately on his love language. For a while, I fell into the bad habit of assuming that we spoke the same love languages. I would tell him I love him all the time, but sometimes it just didn’t seem like enough. Finally after reading the book, I realized that his love language requires me to not only tell him how much I love him, but show him through acts of service. Does this mean that I am now my husband’s slave? Not at all"
- Tips For Loving Your Acts of Service Love Language Spouse @ A Love Worth Living For - "He feels love, however, when he comes home and I have done all...or let’s just say most…of those things. It eases his anxiety. It enables him to relax. It communicates, “I love you so much that I don't want you to come into an environment that makes you anxious.” It says, “What matters to you matters to me.” Plus, it gives him room to focus on me. I get the quality time and closeness I need. Win win!"
- Week 4: Acts of Service (Foreign Languages) @ elevate ideas. - "Now, he shows her he loves her by cleaning up the kitchen or vacuuming the living room. And she feels loved, and their marriage is thriving."
- Acts of Service @ Intimacy 4 Us - "Acts of service are not when meet your partners demands (nobody feels like doing things they are forced to do!), but when you do something out of your own to keep her happy. If your wife regularly complains for example that you never want to buy the groceries for her or are prepared to bath the kids, it’s then possible that her love language is acts of service. “Your partner’s criticism of your behaviour is a clue to their primary love language. People are inclined to criticize their partner on the area where they feel the deepest emotional need. Their criticism is a cry for love,” explains Gary."
- The Little Things @ Nurturing Marriage - "You know that phrase, "actions speak louder than words"? This statement couldn't be more true for those whose primary love language is acts of service. Dr. Gary Chapman tells a story that goes like this: Maxine and David had been married for 15 years. She tells Dr. Chapman that she's frustrated with her marriage because her husband always says he loves her, but he never shows her he loves her. He quotes Maxine saying, "If David loved me, he would do something to help me." Although David was telling Maxine he loved her, her love language was acts of service and not words of affirmation. Dr. Chapman taught David about the love languages (particularly acts of service), and sent them on their way. A month later, Maxine said their marriage was better than ever! "
Receiving gifts
- How to Love Your Gifts-Loving Partner (Love Language Practical Tips, Part 5) @ PreEngaged.com - “Maybe you are concerned that you will go broke trying to show love to your significant other, but let me put your mind at ease: if your boyfriend or girlfriend speaks the love language of Gifts, you will not have to spend a lot of money to show that you care. He or she is not interested in your breaking the bank or spending beyond your means (and if he or she is, that is not tied to the love language of Gifts and is a red flag you need to address). What your honey is looking for is intentionality… proof that he or she is on your mind and worth the time it takes to pick out a nice card, buy a cup of his favorite coffee, or find that teddy bear that sings her favorite song.”
- Love Languages Part Three: Do You Know How to Give Gifts? @ Stellar Coaching and Consulting - “Cost is irrelevant. Gift-giving, particularly within the context of love languages is not about how much one does or doesn’t spend. Gift giving is about showing that you care, showing that you’re thinking of someone.Gifts can include those that are purchased, found or made.For those whose primary love language is “gifts”, gifts say more than “I love you” – they say “I see our relationship as worthy of this investment”.
- 11 Things You Need To Know Before You Date Someone Whose Love Language Is ‘Receiving Gifts’@ Thought Catalog
- Got Gifts? @ Agape Her - When you give a gift to your spouse, it says and shows multiple things: 1) You were thinking of me.2) I see this as a symbol of our love.3) It creates beautiful memories.
- How to Love Your Gifts-Loving Partner (Love Language Practical Tips, Part 5) @ PreEngaged.com - Make Any Day a Holiday.Always Be on the Lookout for Small Gifts.Never Return from a Trip Without a Souvenir
- Receiving Gifts @ wifeafterchrist - “I think of the unfortunate husband who buys his wife a vacuum cleaner. Sure, it may be a top of the line vacuum and may make her life a ton easier while she cleans, but the purpose of the gift is work. To the person whose love language is to receive gifts, they look closely at the thought behind the gift. That being said, I know many people who would love to receive a nice vacuum as a gift, one being my own mom. This is why you need to pay special attention to your spouse, and put a lot of thought into the gifts you give.”
- Five Love Languages: Receiving Gifts @ Spotlight English
- Receiving Gifts uploaded by William Mize
- 5 Love Language Receiving Gifts @ True Agape Newlywed Blog - “– Buy a pear and tell them you think you two make a good pair! Or any of the following: You are the apple of my eye. You are my main squeeze (lemon/lime). You’re as cute as a pumpkin.” “– Use your talent to make them something: Painting, scarf, mosaic, a yummy treat, etc..”
- Box Full of Sunshine @ True Agape Newlywed Blog - “Collect yellow and orange items. Add a drawing of a sun and some spiral pipe cleaners. I even added construction paper around some things that were not yellow or orange.”
Quality time
- How to Love Your Quality Time Partner (Love Language Practical Tips, Part 6) @ PreEngaged.com - Recommendations for Showing Love to Your Quality Timer Focused Attention.Plan Dates which involve a lot of Quality Time.Schedule Regular Quality Time into your Week.Quality Time when Your Sweetheart is Insecure
- Quality Time uploaded by William Mize
- 11 Things You Need To Know Before You Date Someone Whose Love Language Is ‘Quality Time’ @Thought Catalog
- Quality Time: What Does It Mean For Women? @ Being Raluca - *F ro men too!!!* “When I’ve asked a mother like this: “how many hours did you play with your child today, or worked on a project together, or included her in your activities, like assisting you in the kitchen?” The answer was: ‘none! But she’s been around me the whole day!!!’ That doesn’t count as quality time for her. She needs your undivided attention, even if for only 15 minutes when you don’t have more.”
- The Little Things @ Nurturing Marriage - “Here are four ways to spend real, full-on, meaningful quality time with your spouse:Maintain eye contact when your spouse is talking.Don’t listen to your spouse and do something else at the same time (especially men AKA non-foreordained multi-taskers!) Listen for feelings. Ask yourself, “What emotion is my spouse experiencing? Refuse to interrupt. Such interruptions indicate,’I don’t care what you’re saying. Listen to me instead.’ “
- Week 1: Quality Time (Foreign Languages) @ elevate ideas. - “For someone whose love language is quality time, I think it’s important to first identify what quality time is not:It’s not a date with another couple or a night out with friends.It’s not simply being in proximity with each other.It’s not time together where you’re both on phones, tablets or watching TV.Simply put, for someone who speaks quality time as their love language, it’s one-on-one, undivided attention time. It can happen in a restaurant, a coffee shop, the couch or the bedroom. It’s knowing that at that moment, the other person is focused on nothing else but you.”
- Quality Time @ Learn Your Love Language - “Some quality conversation topics are:Childhood memories. Views on religion.Inspirations.Dreams for the future”
- I Just Wish You'd Spend Some Quality Time with Me @ Agape Her - “1) Have a conversation in the comfort of your home with your spouse. 2) The two of you can go for a nice walk on the beach....5) Cook dinner together...Examples of quality activities:Complete a jigsaw puzzle together.Hiking.Dinner dates.Watching meteor showers”
- The Five Love Languages of Boys: Quality Time @ The MOB Society
- Five Love Languages of Children: Quality Time @ Busy Kids Happy Mom - Run errands 1:1 together...Family dinner time. Ask about their day and really listen to the details...Try to protect it and eat meals together several times a week.Read together....”
- Words of Affirmation and Quality Time @ #staymarried - “Just being together, whether it’s with Tony or any one of my friends, is one of the ways I most feel connected. There is this thing about time that cannot be escaped – we all have the exact same amount of it. “
- Language of Love #2: Quality Time@ A Nugget of Joy - ““By “quality time”, I mean giving someone your undivided attention.” – Gary Chapman...Yes, so if you think that sitting together in the same room, on the same couch, playing Candy Crush on the iPhone and taking turns to exclaim at intervals that you have once again failed a stage is NOT quality time.....Quality activities are important because these create memories, memories that are for you to keep and draw on in years to come. These are memories that will make you smile, that will make your heart race, that will convince you (even in the days when you feel like you just cannot tolerate the sight of your spouse’s face) that you made the right choice in marrying this person. These are memories of love.”
Physical touch
- 3 Ways to Meet the Needs of Your 'Physical Touch' Partner @ Passion by Kait - 3 ways to show love through physical touch massage.random make-outs and hugs.putting my arm around him in public
- Physical Touch @The Daily Positive - “ How do I give physical touch? Greet with a hug. Sit close enough to touch Hold hands while walking place to place. Place hand on arm or knee during a conversation. Offer a massage Cuddle while watching a movie. Rub his/her shoulders after a long day.”
- Physical Touch uploaded by William Mize
- Physical Touch: Explained & Ideas @ True Agape Newlywed Blog - “Simple Touches. The 3 H’s- Hug, High Five and Hold Hands- self explanatory- do them often. Soft Touches Casually- touch their face, back, arm, butt, etc as you pass by them.Head and Hair- play with their hair or rub their head.Horse Play- poking, tickling, chasing teasing. Sitting Close- in public or private sit close to your mate.Massage– massage parts of their body or even give them a full body massage.Pray- hold hands while you do so.”
- 11 Things You Need To Know Before You Date Someone Whose Love Language Is ‘Touch’ @ Thought Catalog -
- The Physical Touch, A Language Of Love @ Lifescript.com - *Or she :)* “* He enjoys hugging, cuddling and holding hands regularly.* Physical touch is appreciated at any time of the day, and in public places.* Light touch is used with family and close friends, like touching elbows, tousling hair, giving a gentle poke, and even kissing.* Men may wrestle jostle, tickle or use other “aggressive” forms of touch.
- Love Languages Part 6: Physical Touch @ LIBERAL GEEK - “It is important to take a moment though and clarify the point about sex. Guys are physiologically driven to have sex. This is why it is important to be careful when identifying your language as Physical Touch. Sex is AWESOME (when done right) and releases endorphins so it's easy to claim this as a language. :) All of that being said, sex is an important dialect of the language of Physical Touch. If your partner's language is Touch, a healthy sex life is most likely just as important as those little incidental touches you get throughout the day.”
- How to Love Your Physical Touch Partner (Love Language Practical Tips, Part 2) @ PreEngaged.com - *Talks about waiting until marriage. That is up to you and it is your body you can do whatever you want.* “Recommendations for Showing Love through Physical Touch”: Hugs. Back Rubs.Hand-Holding
Attachment styles
Love is a strong emotion which typically involves passion and desire—a need to be physically and emotionally intimate with another person. Love is designed to bring people together.Attachment, on the other hand, is the sense of security, stability and comfort which people derive from their relationships.Attachment is designed to keep people together" - @ Truth About Deception
Love is a strong emotion which typically involves passion and desire—a need to be physically and emotionally intimate with another person. Love is designed to bring people together.Attachment, on the other hand, is the sense of security, stability and comfort which people derive from their relationships.Attachment is designed to keep people together" - @ Truth About Deception
- How to Handle an Insecure Romantic Partner @ Psychology Today - “...they suggested that you are more likely to live happily ever after if you match your style of conflict resolution to your partner’s attachment style.”
- Mary Ainsworth | Attachment Styles @ Simply Psychology
- *What is Your Attachment Style? - "Young children need to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver in order for their social and emotional development to occur normally. Without this attachment, they will suffer serious psychological and social impairment. During the first two years, how the parents or caregivers respond to their infants, particularly during times of distress, establishes the types of patterns of attachment their children form. "
- Bowlby, Ainsworth, Shaver, Hazan and Zeifman are well-known people.
- "What is a Romantic Attachment? @ Truth About Deception - "Infants form an attachment to the caregivers based on the nature and amount of physical contact they have with others. Infants form an attachment to the person who provides the most physical contact—the most kissing, cuddling, caressing, and so on.And adults do the same when it comes to forming a romantic attachment. Adults form a deep emotional attachment based on intimate physical contact—kissing and cuddling, etc. If you have repeated intimate contact with another person, you will most likely form a deep attachment to that person. Once an attachment is formed—people want to spend more time together, feel safe and secure in each other’s presence, and they will experience loss when the relationship comes to an end.Again, romantic attachments are designed to keep people together because over the course of human evolution people, who stayed together, had an easier time raising offspring than people who only came together for the purposes of sex.While attachments help create stability, there is a downside. Attachments are less concerned that you are happy with your partner and more concerned that you stay together. In fact, many people form an attachment to someone who they do not like as a person. It is quiet possible to form a deep bond to someone who is less than an ideal romantic partner—this happens everyday.Many relationship problems could be avoided, if people did not rush into forming an attachment with someone."
- Attachment Styles @Very Well - "Characteristics of Attachment: Bowlby believed that there are four distinguishing characteristics of attachment: Proximity Maintenance - The desire to be near the people we are attached to.Safe Haven - Returning to the attachment figure for comfort and safety in the face of a fear or threat.Secure Base - The attachment figure acts as a base of security from which the child can explore the surrounding environment.Separation Distress - Anxiety that occurs in the absence of the attachment figure."
*Note: Some of these talk about how we should all have a secure attachment which is just a way to sell books. Attachment styles are like love languages, and orientations. Learn your attachment style and your partner’s attachment style and work with it instead of against it.
Secure Attachment
- @Wikipedia - “Children who are securely attached typically are visibly upset as their caregivers leave, but they are happy upon their return. These children seek comfort from their parent or caregiver when frightened. In an instance when their parent or primary caregiver is not available, these children can be comforted to a degree by others, but they prefer their familiar parent or caregiver.”
- The Secure Attachment Style: What We Can Learn From The Super-Mates of Relationships @ The Love Compass - “They explain that secured attached individuals are:Great conflict busters: during a fight they don’t feel the need to act defensively or to injure or punish their partner, and so prevent the situation from escalating.Mentally flexible: they are not threatened by criticism. They’re willing to reconsider their ways, and if necessary, revise their beliefs and strategies.Effective communicators: they expect others to be understanding and responsive, so expressing their feelings freely and accurately to their partners comes naturally to them.Not game players: they want closeness and believe others want the same, so why play games?Comfortable with closeness, unconcerned about boundaries: they seek intimacy and aren’t afraid of being “enmeshed.” Because they aren’t overwhelmed by a fear of being slighted (as are the anxious) or the need to deactivate (as are the avoidants), they find it easy to enjoy closeness, whether physical or emotional.Quick to forgive: they assume their partner’s intentions are good and are therefor likely to forgive them when they do something hurtful.Inclined to view sex and emotional intimacy as one: they don’t need to create distance by separating the two (by being close either emotionally or sexually but not both).Treat their partners like royalty: when you’ve become part of their inner circle, they treat you with love and respect.Secure in their power to improve the relationship: they are confident in their positive beliefs about themselves and others, which makes this assumption logical.Responsible for their partners wellbeing: they expect others to be responsive and loving towards them and so are responsive to others needs.
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Dismissive/fearful–avoidant
- @Wikipedia - ""I am somewhat uncomfortable getting close to others. I want emotionally close relationships, but I find it difficult to trust others completely, or to depend on them. I sometimes worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others." People with this attachment style have mixed feelings about close relationships. On the one hand, they desire to have emotionally close relationships. On the other hand, they tend to feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness. "
- **TYPE: DISMISSIVE-AVOIDANT - "The two avoidant types (dismissive-avoidant and fearful-avoidant) share a subconscious fear that caregivers are not reliable and intimacy is a dangerous thing....Dismissives have poor access to early emotional memories, having built a defensive shield of self-esteem and self-sufficiency that requires negative memories to be suppressed:"
- **Top Ten Signs Your Partner is Avoidant - 10. Stresses boundaries.9. Uncomfortable sharing deep feelings.8. Prefers casual sex. 7. Disregards your feelings. 6. Misses you when apart, but when together wants to escape. 5. Pulls away when intimacy nears. 4. Idealizes a past relationship or partner, or dreams of “the one”. 3. Sends mixed signals. 2. Values independence and looks down on “neediness”. 1. Fear of commitment/Fear of being “trapped”
- **The Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style
- **Relationship Attachment Style (Part 2): Insecure Avoidant Attachment Pattern - "This is part two of the Relationship Attachment Style overview series. Part two discusses the Insecure Avoidant Attachment Pattern (sometimes separated as Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant). This video discusses the childhood and environmental conditions that can manifest an Insecure Avoidant Attachment Pattern and how that pattern functions. It can be important to know how somebody with an Avoidant Attachment Pattern thinks and why they do.:
- **ADDICTION TO "ALONE TIME" ‐‐ AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT, NARCISSISM, AND A ONE‐PERSON PSYCHOLOGY WITHIN A TWO‐PERSON PSYCHOLOGICAL SYSTEM
anxious-ambivalent
- What is Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment Style definition of Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment Style (Psychology Dictionary) - “A person with an anxious-ambivalent attachment style is constantly fearful of being rejected in relationships, leading them to not fully engage. "
- How to Handle an Insecure Romantic Partner @ Psychology Today - “Anxious/ambivalent lovers, on the other hand, experience relationships like an emotional roller-coaster, with more highs and lows, and relatively higher levels of sexual motivation. Anxious people often drive away the very partners they want so much to keep, by making excessive demands that the partner demonstrate love and commitment. Anxious/ambivalent lovers perceive their partners as less caring, and Jeff Simpson and his colleagues have found that anxious/ambivalent women are prone to develop postpartum depression if they do not feel their partner is giving enough support...Simpson and Overall suggest that an anxious partner is likely to be most reassured by clear demonstrations of your love and support, whereas an avoidant partner does better if you don’t threaten his or her autonomy and independence. “
- @Wikipedia - “The child is generally ambivalent when she returns.The anxious-ambivalent strategy is a response to unpredictably responsive caregiving, and the displays of anger (ambivalent resistant) or helplessness (ambivalent passive) towards the caregiver on reunion can be regarded as a conditional strategy for maintaining the availability of the caregiver by preemptively taking control of the interaction.”
Disorganized/disoriented attachment
- @wikipedia - “Ainsworth and colleagues sometimes observed "tense movements such as hunching the shoulders, putting the hands behind the neck and tensely cocking the head, and so on. It was our clear impression that such tension movements signified stress, both because they tended to occur chiefly in the separation episodes and because they tended to be prodromal to crying.”
- Childhood Bonding: Disorganized Attachment by Maggie Kerrigan @ Healing After Trama- “One way to express the impulse to move away is to invite her to focus on feeling protected. Ask her if there were any one from her past who protected her or whom she witnessed protecting another person. If this is not possible, suggest that she think of images from movies, books or stories that represent heroes/ heroines or strong protectors. Next, invite her to imagine the protector defending her against frightening behaviors. These strategies can help her to realize that she can move away and that she does not have to be at the mercy of hurtful behaviors.”
- @ Alley Dog - “During The Strange Situation Test a child with this type of insecure attachment shows some pretty extreme behaviors such as crying during separation, falling to the floor when around mom, and even rocking or hitting themselves.”
Anxious–preoccupied
- Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style @ The Love Compass - “If things continue to escalate and needs continue to go unmet, protest behaviour ensues and can harm the relationship. Protest behaviour includes:Excessive attempts to reestablish contact: Excessive texting, calling, messaging etc.Withdrawing: Ignoring, not taking calls, etc.Keeping score: Waiting to see how long it takes for them to call you back and waiting the same amount of time before returning their call, waiting for them to apologize, etc.Acting hostile: Eye rolling, walking away, leaving room.Threatening to leave: Making comments that you can’t do this anymore and that your better off without the person in hopes that they will convince you to stay.Manipulations: Saying you have plans when you don’t, not answering calls, playing games.Making him/her feel jealous: Making plans with an ex, talking about your attractive coworker, texting friends of the opposite sex, etc.”
- Forming healthy relationships with an anxious attachment style @ Workhealthlife blog - “Here are six methods for you to explore:Acknowledge and accept their true relationship needs.Let your partner know that you need security within a relationship.Begin to assess potential partners based on their ability to meet your need for a secure relationship.Learn to recognize and rule out avoidant prospects early on (see below for ways to find out a person’s attachment style).Use effective communication to express your needs rather than using protest behaviours (calling incessantly, making your partner jealous).Try the abundance philosophy. Acknowledge that there are many people in the dating pool and it is sometimes necessary to meet several different people before settling on one particular person.”
- @Wikipedia - “Compared to securely attached people, people who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to have less positive views about themselves. They may feel a sense of anxiousness that only recedes when in contact with the attachment figure. They often doubt their worth as a person and blame themselves for the attachment figure's lack of responsiveness. “
Practical
Spirutal
- Souls That Come Together Have A Strong Spiritual Attraction | The Galactic Free Press - “ Love means it can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance. Love is simply the longing of the lover to make the loved one supremely happy. In a wider sense, love in the soul means that the soul is longing above all to give brilliant, resplendent love and happiness to the beloved.”
- Spiritual Attraction: When You Just “Know” - Love Is In The Stars: Truth on Astrological Love and Astrology Attraction - “It Feels Like You’ve Come Home...You’re Being Your Best You...You Can Let Things Unfold...You Feel Comfortable Saying “No””
- The 7 Spiritual Laws Of Love | Care2 Healthy Living - “The First Stage of Love: Attraction...The Second Stage of Love: Infatuation...The Third Stage of Love: Communion...The Fourth Stage of Love: Intimacy...The Fifth Stage of Love: Surrender and Non-Attachment...The Sixth Stage of Love: Passion...The Seventh Stage of Love: Ecstasy...”
- Love & Spirituality: How to Tell If You're Spiritually Connected @ Psychics Universe - “When a spiritual connection is sparked, you are able to drop that public persona and let the other person get to know the real you.When you spiritually connect with someone, it usually goes beyond sharing interests, hobbies, religion, political ideologies, education or things like that.”
- 10 Steps for Spiritual Attraction @ mindbodygreen.com - 1. Follow your heart...2. Tune into the Soul....3. See the big picture...4. Develop emotional self-mastery...5. Align to your truth...6. Follow your intuition...7. Keep your head clear...8. Believe in yourself...9. Act!..10. Keep the faith...”
- Ten Steps for Spiritual Attraction @ Beyond The Secret
- What is Spiritual Attraction? - Explained! Uploaded by Asexualise My Asexual Life - “Spiritual Attraction can be two-fold. You can have spiritual attraction for friends, in the sense you are drawn to them and enjoy spending time with them because you find your mind and soul are connected in some way and then you can also be spiritually attracted to someone on a more deeper spiritual level, and feel like you want to be in a relationship with them, that they are your soulmate who you are meant to be with forever. Ofcourse some people feel that they have more than one soulmate and that they do not have to be in a relationship with them.”
Sexual (lust)
- 10 Surprising Factors That Influence Sexual Attraction @ The Bolde - Colors you wear... People who look like you are more attractive to you...Birth control.. Exercising.. Nervousness...highly symmetric faces...People who have numerous admirers...Your smell...Age..Money & power
- 10 Facts About Attraction @ Business Insider - 1. We tend to be attracted to people who look like us...2. This may sound creepy to some of you, but we also seem to be attracted to people who remind us of our parents....3. If you’re already physiologically aroused (e.g., from having just exercised) and you meet someone new, you’re more likely to develop an attraction to that person...4.Research has found that the drunker people get, the higher the attractiveness ratings they give to strangers....5. Playing hard to get seems to work—at least if you’re looking for a long-term relationship....6...both men and women prefer it when people open with a simply “hi” or “hello,” or lead with an innocuous question (e.g., “Do you want to dance?”)...7. Attraction is a multi-sensory process...8. The things that heterosexual women find attractive in men vary across the menstrual cycle...9. Heterosexual men tend to find women wearing red clothing more attractive than women wearing any other color [2]...10. Our patterns of sexual attraction appear to change seasonally...
- What Turns You On? 10 Fascinating Facts About Sexual Attraction @ Alternet - 1. Get your motor running....2. Right on the left....3. Why the piece of pie in the glass case looks better than the one you’re eating - ...Berns found the rewards centers of the brain were more highly activated when the rewards came at unpredictable times than when they came on schedule...4. Show us your tips!...5. Whither boobies?...6. Sniffin’ the tears...7. The things we smell for love....8. Melodies of love....9. You know how you like to masturbate in public?..10. Whatcha gonna do? - ‘found that the extent to which a person’s brain (specifically the nucleus accumbens) perceives sexual pictures as rewarding predicts their sexual behavior six months later.'”
- The Strange Science Of Sexual Attraction @ The Huffington Post - “We fall in love at first “smell.”...Men can detect a fertile woman....Women quickly assess markers of masculinity....The Pill might change a woman’s preference in men...But personality is important, too.”
- 3 Things You Didn't Want to Know About Sexual Attraction @ Psychology Today - We’re attracted to our opposite-sex parents...We Find the Color Red Attractive Because of the Genital Swellings of Our Primate Ancestors...Sexual Attraction Makes Disgusting Stimuli More Palatable
- Understanding Sexual Attraction@ Men's Health.com - “Facial expression.. Body Langauge...Most people recognize, at least on a gut level, that what you say is often far less important than how you say it. And how you say it involves powerful and complex messages sent by facial expression, body language, tone of voice, and even scent....Mimic...Eye contact...Synchrony...The first reason you think this woman is beautiful is that her thick mane of gleaming hair and her fine, smooth skin tell you that she's healthy and probably isn't playing host to any parasites...hourglass figure, and her clothing accentuates it. Her high heels also make her back arch, emphasizing those curves....
- @Wikipedia - "Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest.Sexual attractiveness or sex appeal is an individual's ability to attract the sexual or erotic interest of another person, and is a factor in sexual selection or mate choice. The attraction can be to the physical or other qualities or traits of a person, or to such qualities in the context in which they appear. The attraction may be to a person's aesthetics or movements or to their voice or smell, besides other factors. The attraction may be enhanced by a person's adornments, clothing, perfume or style. It can also be influenced by individual genetic, psychological, or cultural factors, or to other, more amorphous qualities of the person. Sexual attraction is also a response to another person that depends on a combination of the person possessing the traits and also on the criteria of the person who is attracted."
- The Strange Science Of Sexual Attraction @ The Huffington Post - We fall in love at first “smell.”...Men can detect a fertile woman...Women quickly assess markers of masculinity....The Pill might change a woman’s preference in men...But personality is important, too...
- 3 Things You Didn't Want to Know About Sexual Attraction @ Psychology Today - We're Attracted to Our Opposite-Sex Parents...We Find the Color Red Attractive Because of the Genital Swellings of Our Primate Ancestors...Sexual Attraction Makes Disgusting Stimuli More Palatable
- Lust vs Love: Do You Know the Difference?
Physical
Emotional
- Relationship Advice: The Importance of Emotional Attraction @ Cheat Sheet.com - “1. Friendship...2. Communication...3. Connection...4. Sustaining emotional attraction...”
- What Is Emotional Attraction? - Explained!! uploaded by Asexualise My Asexual Life
- The Feeling That Makes Men Fall In Love (And STAY In Love) by Christian Carter @ YourTango - "1. Allow him the space he needs and take some time for yourself....2. Shake things up a little to create interest and excitement...."
- How To Create Emotional Attraction With a Man@ How To Win a Man's Heart
- What Is Chemistry? Part Two: Emotional Engagement @ Doctor Nerd Love - “"I Love You For Your Mind…You Must Communicate Your Passion...Interested Is Interesting...Engage Her Emotionally...Find Commonalities...Use Qualifications...”
- What Does It Mean to Be Emotionally Attracted to Someone?@ The Classroom Synonym - “Talking to someone about your deepest desires, thoughts and needs indicates an emotional connection. You might feel that connection early in a relationship, such as on the first date or two. You talk about how things make you feel or your deepest aspirations for the future. You want this person to get you -- to understand what makes you tick. If you are female, you do this through deep conversation; if you are male, you do this through shared activities, according to Dr. Willard Harley Jr. in his book “His Needs, Her Needs.””
Intellectual
- 8 Reasons Why Mentally Attractive People Will Always Be Hotter Than Physically Attractive Ones | Thought Catalog - “1. Physical attraction is built from mental attraction....2. Being connected by your brains is so much hotter than being connected by your bodies....3.Smart is sexy...4. Mental attraction grows, physical attraction fades....5. Physical attraction is temporarily engaging, mental attraction is consuming...”
- How to Know if You and Your Guy Are Intellectually Compatible @ Verily - “O1. Talk About Your Intellectual Goals....02. Push Past the Small Talk....03. Discover Shared Intellectual Pursuits...04. Keep It Alive...05. Use Your Intellect to Discover Each Other...”
- Brainsex: 8 Reasons To Date Someone Who Is Attracted To Intelligence @ Thought Catalog - “Being attracted to intelligence doesn’t mean being into people who scored well on standardized exams. “Intelligence” is a dimensional, faceted awareness (psychologically speaking, there’s intrapersonal intelligence, linguistic, mathematical, bodily, and so on). ..1.Your experience of intimacy is more than just sexual....2.Your relationship strengthens your identity – not the opposite way around....4.It inspires you to want to be better....5.Neither of you have the capacity to entertain petty dramas, so you don’t lose your connection to preventable, daily frustrations....6.You learn what it means to coexist...7.You bond over your favorite books and deepest beliefs and honest conversations...8.You learn and you teach one other....
Cosmically
Attachment Theory
About attachment theory
anaclitic depression
Hospitalism
emotional deprivation
Triangular theory of love by Robert Sternberg.
- The triangular theory of love
- different types of love :Romantic, Platonic, passionate @ Hissmonster
- The triangular theory of love
- Types of love by ItsVanessaAye @ Slideshare - Platonic Vs. relationship
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love"
Infatuation/Limerance
- They say love is blind... infatuation is blind... - "Infatuation is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect..."
Empty Love
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love"
Platonic/Friendship
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love
Plato's Symposium
Companionate Love
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love"
Fatuous Love
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love"
Consummate Love
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love"
Romantic Love
- The 6 Types of Love: What Infatuation Lacks by Garrick Transell @ Elephant Journal -Non-love, Liking/ friendship, Infatuated love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, Consummate love"
Intimacy
- A great website to look at is 14 Days of Foreplay, it is a class that helps you become more intimate with your lover. Science of Love as lust, adrenaline and attachment. Science of ove's website also states that chemicals such as osetrogen contribute to lust while chemicals such as Dopamine, Adrenaline and Serotonin are the reason why we fall in love. Oxytocin and Vasopressin are the reasons why we become so attached to others. According to the Youtube channel SoulPancake's video The Secret to Intimacy | The Science of Love. , vulnerability and curiosity are the keys to intimacy.
Resources
- "The Science of Love." The Science of Love. N.p., n.d. Web. 30 May 2016. <http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm>.
- The Secret to Intimacy | The Science of Love. SoulPancake, 2014. Youtube. Web. 30 May 2016. <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q2Niq_v34EI>.
Touch
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Types of intimacy
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Hopless Romantic:
Physical intimacy
Hugs
TOuch / Skin hunger
- Day 5: 6 Reasons You Need To Be Touched @Pick the Brain - 1. Feel connected to others.2. Reduce anxiety.3. Bonding. 4. Lowers your blood pressure.5. Improve your outlook.6. Give us the sensory input that we crave.
- What Lack of Affection Can Do to You @ Psychology Today - "Just as lack of food, water, and rest have their detrimental effects, so too does the lack of affection. In a recent study of 509 adults, I examined the construct of skin hunger—and the social, relational, and health deficits with which it is associated. The results were consistent, and striking. People with high levels of skin hunger are disadvantaged in multiple ways, compared to those with moderate or low levels. Specifically, compared to people with less skin hunger, people who feel more affection-deprived: are less happy; more lonely; more likely to experience depression and stress; and, in general, in worse health. They have less social support and lower relationship satisfaction. They experience more mood and anxiety disorders, and more secondary immune disorders (those that are acquired rather than inherited genetically). They are more likely to have alexithymia, a condition that impairs their ability to express and interpret emotion. Finally, they are more likely to have a preoccupied or fearful avoidant attachment style; they're less likely to form secure attachments with others in their lives.?"
- The Effect of Human Contact on Newborn Babies @| LIVESTRONG.COM - "Babies who don't receive human contact in their first days or weeks of life often suffer from health problems related to this deprivation. They can exhibit a failure to thrive, a condition seen in orphanages among children who did not receive enough human contact when they were babies. Newborns denied physical contact with other humans can actually die from this lack of contact, even when provided with proper nutrition and shelter."
- The Power of Touch @ Psychology Today - "Hertenstein had volunteers attempt to communicate a list of emotions to a blindfolded stranger solely through touch. Many participants were apprehensive about the experiment. "This is a touch-phobic society," he says. "We're not used to touching strangers, or even our friends, necessarily."But touch they did—it was, after all, for science. The results suggest that for all our caution about touching, we come equipped with an ability to send and receive emotional signals solely by doing so. Participants communicated eight distinct emotions—anger, fear, disgust, love, gratitude, sympathy, happiness, and sadness—with accuracy rates as high as 78 percent. "
- How can lack of touch lead to babies’ failure to thrive?@ Sharecare - "Dr. Luther Emmett Holt, known as one of America's first and finest pediatricians, decided that parents were spoiling their children by cuddling and holding them too much. Good parents took notice and immediately followed his order, beginning a trend of “hands-off” parenting. Within just a few years, doctors across the nation started to notice a dramatic increase in infant deaths—particularly in seemingly healthy babies. It soon became apparent that these infants experienced “failure to thrive,” simply because they were not getting enough human contact through touch. There are hosts of studies of babies in orphanages concluding that those infants who suffered from touch deprivation achieved only half of the height normal for their age.
In “touch” studies done on animals, monkey infants who were denied contact -- a "secure base" -- ceased to explore their environments. Research in animal behavior also reveals that when animals are deprived of touch, they become aggressive and violent." - Do People Need Human Touch? (with Pictures) @ eHow - "In the 1940s, Dr. Rene Spitz was left perplexed as to why babies under his care were dying despite being given the proper nutrition and sterile surroundings. Decades before this, reports had also surfaced of babies dying in orphanages in the U.S. for inexplicable reasons. These incidents triggered extensive studies that later gave birth to American psychologist Harry Harlow’s verdict: The babies died from lack of touch."
- Importance of Human Touch @Live Strong - "Researchers at the University of Miami Touch Research Institute found that touch with moderate pressure stimulates a cranial nerve that slows the heart rate and lowers blood pressure. This produces a state that is relaxed but more attentive. Touch also reduces stress hormones and may enhance immune function. In a Touch Research Institute study, medical staff and students that received massages for 15 minutes a day over the course of a month were more accurate and took less time on math performance tests than their counterparts who did not receive massages."
- Skin Hunger: 3 Compelling Ways to Overcome Loneliness - Self Development Workshop For Introverts @ Michael Gregoryii. - 1.Fill time in Your Day to Touch Someone/2. Arrange for a Cuddle Buddy 3. Embrace the Comfort of Others
- Are You Skin Hungry? @ Opposing Views - "About a month later I met a man with whom I had a true heart connection. As I felt desired, and received much-needed doses of oxytocin from touch and cuddling, I watched my energy balance out. In fact, I had more energy than I’d had in months. I felt more motivated to exercise, dance and heal. Even my body—while still feminine—seemed to firm up in all the right places, and soften in others. Slight aches and pains evaporated, and I felt healthier and more alive than I had in months. I had plenty of compassion for friends and family when needed. Above all, I slept like a baby."
- Skin hunger — revisiting touch @ sweet in the morning - "The term “skin hunger” was one a therapist friend used with me when describing people who had gone for a long, long time without experiencing touch from another person — another person who was meaningful to them. She said that there is a longing that builds up in people — particularly those who are experiencing some type of distress — that really needs to be satisfied. It’s odd that we all know about the experiment where a baby monkey is denied his mother. In fact, I seldom allow myself to think about those things because I think my head will just explode with rage and grief that someone would deny another living creature affection and comfort — even for some behavioral experiment. There is a level of cruelty involved there that I cannot fathom."
- Skin Hunger: How Important Is The Human Touch? @ Thought Catalog - "Humans need to be socialized; mentally, emotionally, and physically from birth, but our needs seem to lessen as we mature. How much that lessens would depend on each person’s experiences, but I think needing it less is a myth. We all need it. We just learn to compartmentalize that need. We ignore it. We think of it as an inconvenience. But it’s not wrong to want a hug when you’re sad, to need to be consoled when you’re upset."
- Skin Hunger by Extendicare - the importance of touch
- Touch from Tuberrose - "Various studies have shown that when someone else gently holds a person's wrist, heartbeat slows and blood pressure declines. Children and adolescents, hospitalized for psychiatric problems, show remarkable reductions in anxiety levels and positive changes in attitude when they receive a brief daily back rub."
- Skin hunger (thing) @ Everything(dot) com - Why don't we get the touch we need."Four trends in our society take most of the blame:Technology,Disconnected lifestyles, A Litigious Society, The media"
- Posts about touching, compassion,etc @ Dreamwidth - "Skin Hunger," "Touch Aversion," "Primates Need Touch," and "Self-Soothing and Self-Control." "Creating Safe Space," "Building Trust," "Healthy Vulnerability," "Coping with Emotional Drop &&Compassion and Gentleness "
Hedgehog's dilemma
- "The phrase hedgehog's dilemma refers to the notion that: (1) The closer two beings come to one another in a relationship, the more likely it might be for them to inflict psychological pain on each other (2) Yet if they remain apart, they each might feel the roughly-equivalent (psychological) pain of loneliness. " - Urban Dictionary
- This notion comes from the conjecture that hedgehogs, with sharp spines on their backs, might hurt each other if they get too close. It is a character trait believed to be possessed by some individuals, in real life as well as in works of fiction, sometimes causing anti-social behaviours, often allegedly caused by an unpleasant past experience of intimate relationships. A person who suffers from the hedgehog's dilemma will usually avoid becoming too close or involved with someone, due to fear of another similar, possibly painful, experience, such as they had experienced in the past.
- "A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter; but, as they began to prick one another with their quills, they were obliged to disperse. However the cold drove them together again, when just the same thing happened. At last, after many turns of huddling and dispersing, they discovered that they would be best off by remaining at a little distance from one another. In the same way the need of society drives the human porcupines together, only to be mutually repelled by the many prickly and disagreeable qualities of their nature. The moderate distance which they at last discover to be the only tolerable condition of intercourse, is the code of politeness and fine manners; and those who transgress it are roughly told—in the English phrase—to keep their distance. By this arrangement the mutual need of warmth is only very moderately satisfied; but then people do not get pricked. A man who has some heat in himself prefers to remain outside, where he will neither prick other people nor get pricked himself." - Wikipedia
- Social Media and the Hedgehog's Dilemma @ Psychology Today - "We can think of the call of social media as a standing invitation to a virtual sitting-room. For writers and others who require long, uninterrupted time in which to create and a comfortable relationship with themselves that allows them to be alone, the problem is akin to what Virginia Woolf described in her classic essay, "A Room of One's Own":
- Hedgehog's dilemma uploaded by Audiopedia - "The hedgehog's dilemma, or sometimes the porcupine dilemma, is an analogy about the challenges of human intimacy. It describes a situation in which a group of hedgehogs all seek to become close to one another in order to share heat during cold weather."
- What is the hedgehog's dilemma? @ MNN - "It was outlined by German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer in 1851, who concludes that the hedgehogs “discovered that they would be best off by remaining at a little distance from one another.”In other words, the hedgehogs realize that while they want to be close, the only way to avoid hurting one another is to avoid getting too close.."
We can tell emotions from touch
- Hands On Research: The Science of Touch @ Greater Good - Here’s what we did: We built a barrier in our lab that separated two strangers from each other. One person stuck his or her arm through the barrier and waited. The other person was given a list of emotions, and he or she had to try to convey each emotion through a one-second touch to the stranger’s forearm. The person whose arm was being touched had to guess the emotion.Given the number of emotions being considered, the odds of guessing the right emotion by chance were about eight percent. But remarkably, participants guessed compassion correctly nearly 60 percent of the time. Gratitude, anger, love, fear—they got those right more than 50 percent of the time as well.
Love Styles
Pragma
- 6 types of love - eros, ludus, storge, pragma,mania, agape
Mania - obsessive, jealous lovers
- 6 types of love - eros, ludus, storge, pragma,mania, agape
Philautia - self respect
Ludus - flirting, playful affection
- 6 types of love - eros, ludus, storge, pragma,mania, agape
aGAPE
- 6 types of love - eros, ludus, storge, pragma,mania, agape
- The 8 Kinds of love by MindsJournal
Phileo - chosen love
eROS
- 6 types of love - eros, ludus, storge, pragma,mania, agape
- The 8 Kinds of love by MindsJournal
Storge
- 6 types of love - eros, ludus, storge, pragma,mania, agape
- The 8 Kinds of love by MindsJournal
- Storge - Natural affection ‘...something like “natural love” or “family love”’
Because cuddling doesn't always = sex,or needs a sexual underton
Why we should cuddle
- Foundations of Facilitation - cuddle training, how to build relationships, etc. Created the cuddle party.
- The Ultimate Guide to Sleeping Positions for Couples [infographic] @ Dreams (dot) co (dot) uk
- Rub her back like this - Vine @ Samy Irssak
- Cuddle-gasm : "The exquisite feeling of laying down with a partner who feels extremely comfortable to lay with. Usually occurs within the first few minutes of laying down while your bodies begin to warm up. Most occur because you are in love with someone and your bodies fit together like a puzzle piece. Researchers have found that most cuddle-gasms are vocalized by a small whimper from the female or the "ahhh" sound from the man." - Urban Dictionary
- Touch: The Power of Human Connection by Samantha Hess - "Technology allows us to communicate across vast distances but something is lost in translation. Busy lives result in neglected relationships and patterns of behavior that discourage intimacy. Touch: The Power of Human Connection illustrates 19 positions designed to bring you closer to the people you value and achieve true fulfillment. More importantly, Touch reveals the science behind cuddling and why it is such a fundamental need. While no book guarantees happiness, Touch comes awfully close. This book shows you how to improve your health, boost your personal energy, strengthen your relationships, satisfy your partner and approach life with confidence. Samantha Hess created a work of astonishing power and grace."
- The Science of Cuddling with Vanessa Van Edwards - "Do you want to be a professional cuddler? Learn from the best--and get some science facts about touch. Yes, there really are 57 cuddle positions. Learn from Samantha Hess who owns Cuddle Up in Portland Oregon."
- the Snugglery - "Jacqueline established The Snuggery because she believes in the healing power of touch. The Snuggery is a place to take a break from the hustle and bustle of life and focus on the simple restorative pleasure of touch. Though science has unquestionably supported the psychological and physical benefits of non-sexual touch, Americans distinctly lack it. It's time for change. At The Snuggery, Jacqueline provides individuals with private snuggling sessions. She aims to make the world a gentler place, one snuggle at a time."
- cuddle-craving adjective@ Asexuality
- Cuddle Buddies? @ Asexual Network
- Does anyone else experience Cuddle Attacks? @ Asexual Network -
- Posts about touching, compassion,etc @ Dreamwidth - "Skin Hunger," "Touch Aversion," "Primates Need Touch," and "Self-Soothing and Self-Control." "Creating Safe Space," "Building Trust," "Healthy Vulnerability," "Coping with Emotional Drop &&Compassion and Gentleness "
- **Juicy Enlightenment - "Juicy Enlightenment is all about falling in love with yourself!! Marrying your spirituality with your sexuality, that through embodiment, (feeling good in your body) you can live life liberated, on YOUR own terms.Juicy Enlightenment is dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be and to offering tools for self expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to enjoy the life they have."
- **10 Incredible Facts About Cuddling That Will Impress You - 1. Cuddling releases oxytocin.2. Cuddling boosts your immune system.3. Cuddling relieves pain.4. Cuddling helps deepen your relationships.5. Cuddling can lead to more.6. Cuddling helps women bond.7. Cuddling reduces social anxiety.8. Cuddling reduces stress.9. Cuddling lowers your risk of heart disease.10. Cuddling doesn’t have a definition.
- Cuddling @ Ask Men - " Oxytocin is released in your brain, just like it is in the female brain, along with a host of other feel-good hormones that will leave you feeling happy and less stresse"
- **6 Amazing Benefits of Cuddling - It strengthens your bond. It makes you stress less. It helps you sleep better. It strengthens your immune system.It improves your sex life.
- **The Science Of Snuggling: 7 Incredible Benefits Of Cuddling - 1. It's Great For Your Sex Life.2. It Makes For A Happier Relationship.3. It Helps Relieve Pain.4. It Boosts Affection.5. It's Good For Your Immune System.6. It Lowers The Risk Of Heart Disease.7. It Can Lead To Round 2.
- **Cuddlers, Rejoice! Science Proves That Sleeping With Someone Else Is Good For Your Health - "Some scientists hypothesize sleeping with a partner may be a prominent reason people in intimate relationships tend to be in better health and live longer than sad and lonely singletons....Here's another reason to love your partner more: Sleeping together promotes feelings of safety and security, which may lower levels of cortisol, a stress hormone."
- **8 HEALTH BENEFITS OF CUDDLING
- **5 Ways Cuddling Makes Us Healthier
- **7 incredible benefits of cuddling @ I heart intelligence - It reinforces emotion bond and affection. It improves sex life.It takes away stress. It relieves pain. Boosts the immune system. Helps us fall asleep.
- Why We Need to Cuddle @ Viral Time -#1 A Happier Life.#2 Healing Touch.#3 To Give & Receive.#4 Tension Reliever
#5 Boosts Self-Esteem.#6 Helps Rebuild Immunity.#7 Connecting in the Moment
cuddle ASMR
- ASMR SIMULATION: CUDDLE TIME. BY WHISPERINGROSE (YOU CAN SAY THESE THINGS TO YOUR PARTNER, WHISPERING HELPS)
cuddle sutra
- 22 days of cuddling using cuddles from the Cuddle Sutra, trailers from the Cuddle documentary,etc. from Fast Lane Productions // The Cuddle documentary - "It’s about compassion, affection and touch. It’s about touch that is not about sex. Wait – IS THERE such a thing? Of course there is! Though not everyone knows it or how to find it. One problem with finding comforting touch is that if you believe that touch is about sex, then either you are afraid it might lead to sex, or you are afraid it might not lead to sex. Not so helpful. We humans need touch and affection. It’s no longer a question. Nurturing, welcome consensual touch is good for you. Good for your body, heart and spirit. Good for your blood pressure, your nervous system, your emotional health, your ability to connect with and trust people, your ability to respect and care for yourself, your creativity, sense of safety and comfort and belonging. Infants who are deprived of touch fail to thrive; we never outgrow the need.Why is it so hard to find? Because for the most part, we think it has to do with sexual relationship, or at least romance, hooking up or ‘attraction’. What if it just has do with being a human being who cares about other human beings? Kindness, compassion, comfort and nourishment. Cuddle Party is a movement to reclaim this option in our lives.
- **The Cuddle Sutra & the benefits of touch therapy - Learn the Snuggle Sutra
- **The Cuddle Sutra: An Unabashed Celebration of the Ultimate Intimacy by Rob Grader - PDF && Slide Share - "Cuddling is more intimate than a candlelit dinner, more than a joint tax return and yes, even more than sex. With the simple act of an embrace, two people can be joined together in such an intense bond that words no longer serve a purpose. The cuddle says it all.The Cuddle Sutra is an all-encompassing resource for the act of cuddling, filled with detailed descriptions and illustrations of all the ways to express affection, whether you're in the privacy of your own bedroom or walking down Main Street.Includes 50 cuddle positions, fully illustrated, for such locales as:--Snuggling in the bedroom.--Kanoodling on the couch.--Hand-Dancing.--Enchanting Embraces.And much, much more!"
how to cuddle
- The Ultimate Guide to Sleeping Positions for Couples [infographic] @ Dreams (dot) co (dot) uk
- Rub her back like this - Vine @ Samy Irssak
- HOW TO CUDDLE from Olga Kay - "Do you want to know how to cuddle? This video can teach you a few tricks."
- How To Cuddle with The Wing Girls
- How To Spoon with Cuddle Up To Me - "For anyone who wants to learn the best way to be comfortable cuddling and learn the tips of the professional, Samantha Hess, here is my information on how to spoon properly."
- Cuddle 101 @ Slideshare - "Different ways to cuddle"
- Cuddling: The Right Way to Sleep from Friends In Real Life *lol* - "Are you in a floundering relationship? This educational video will help rekindle a fading flame."
- **How to Cuddle @ Wikihow - Start slow..Be aware of environmental factors. Get comfortable.Do a little rubbing.
Go with the classic, and spoon.Try out the half-spoon.Layer up.Go face to face. Try the star-gazer. Lay your head in their lap. Play with their hair.. Do a little kissing.Practice some massage.Run your hands down their body. - **How to cuddle like you mean it @The Oatmeal
Sarmassophilia
Ambubachi Mela
- "It is believed that the presiding goddess of the temple, Devi Kamakhya, the Mother Shakti, goes through her annual cycle of menstruation during this time stretch.[4] It is also believed that during the monsoon rains the creative and nurturing power of the 'menses' of Mother Earth becomes accessible to devotees at this site during the mela. There is no idol of the presiding deity but she is worshipped in the form of a yoni-like stone instead over which a natural spring flows." - Wikipedia
- Ambubachi: Celebrating the Menstruation of Mother Earth @ JAI MAA
- Ambubachi Mela 2016 | Fair and Festival in Guwahati @ Indian Holiday - "The Ambubachi Mela in Guwahati is celebrated every year during the monsoon season, which happens to fall in around the middle of the month of June. the beginning date of Ambubachi Mela is 22nd to 26th June.:
- Top 10 Facts about Ambubachi Mela at Kamakhya Temple @ Online Prasad
- Ambubachi Mela in Assam : Celebrating Fertility of Mother Earth
Raja Parba
- “a four day long festival and the second day signifies beginning of the solar month of Mithuna from, which the season of rains starts. It inaugurates and welcomes the agricultural year all over Orissa, which marks, through biological symbolism, the moistening of the sun dried soil with the first showers of the monsoon in mid June thus making it ready for productivity....” - Wikipedia
- RAJA PARBA,THE MANSOON FESTIVAL OF ODISHA. - "Raja Parba (Falls every year in the middle of June.) Raja is a festival especially marked by the young unmarried girls. They used to swing on rope swings attached from the trees, in rhythm with the folk songs of Raja. This festival underlines mother earth's womanhood and like the young unmarried girl, it is given a rest from the agricultural works.How to participate? Raja is mostly celebrated in the small towns. A group of young girls can organize a small get together in which they can participate in swinging together.
Timing: Throughout three days of Raja Place:Puri, Cuttack, Keonjhar and other places in Odisha." - Raja Parba, the monsoon festival of Orissa (Odisha)
- Raja Parba
How religion distorts sex and the natural body
I think this could apply to all religions and spirituality. Especially Gnosic teachings. While I follow a lot of the gnostic teachings, I don't agree with slut shaming or the shaming of orgasm and sex.
- **Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality by Darrel Ray - "Why are all the major religions consumed with sex? What makes sex so important, whether Buddhism or Islam, Christianity or Mormonism? What is the impact of religion on human sexuality? This book explores this and more. It ventures into territory that has never been examined. You will be surprised at how much religion has influenced your sexuality, who you marry, the pleasure you get or don't get from sex, and what you can do about it.
- 5 Lies Single Christians Believe About Sex - Lie #1 - Sexuality Serves No Purpose Until I’m Married.Lie #2 - If I’m Tempted, There’s Something Wrong.Lie #3 - Sexual Purity Depends On The Physical Act of Sex.Lie #4 - Holiness Is About Getting Rid of Desire.Lie #5 -Once You Get Married Sex Won’t Be An Issue
Orpheus and Eurydice
- "Hades gave permission to Orpheus to bring Eurydice back to the surface of the earth to enjoy the light of day. There was only one condition--Orpheus was not to look back as he ascended. He was to trust that Eurydice was immediately behind him. It was a long way back up and just as Orpheus had almost finished that last part of the trek, he looked behind him to make sure Eurydice was still with him. At that very moment, she was snatched back because he did not trust that she was there...." - @ VCU
Aphrodite
- Aphrodite, Eros, Anteros, Himeros, Pothos - God/goddesses of love - "Aphrodite - Goddess of Love and Beauty. Eros - God of Love.Anteros - God of Requited Love. Himeros - God of Desire and Unrequited Love. Pothos - God of Yearning and Wanting"
EroS -
- Aphrodite, Eros, Anteros, Himeros, Pothos - God/goddesses of love - "Aphrodite - Goddess of Love and Beauty. Eros - God of Love.Anteros - God of Requited Love. Himeros - God of Desire and Unrequited Love. Pothos - God of Yearning and Wanting"
Anteros
- Aphrodite, Eros, Anteros, Himeros, Pothos - God/goddesses of love - "Aphrodite - Goddess of Love and Beauty. Eros - God of Love.Anteros - God of Requited Love. Himeros - God of Desire and Unrequited Love. Pothos - God of Yearning and Wanting"
Himeros
- Aphrodite, Eros, Anteros, Himeros, Pothos - God/goddesses of love - "Aphrodite - Goddess of Love and Beauty. Eros - God of Love.Anteros - God of Requited Love. Himeros - God of Desire and Unrequited Love. Pothos - God of Yearning and Wanting"
Pothos
- Aphrodite, Eros, Anteros, Himeros, Pothos - God/goddesses of love - "Aphrodite - Goddess of Love and Beauty. Eros - God of Love.Anteros - God of Requited Love. Himeros - God of Desire and Unrequited Love. Pothos - God of Yearning and Wanting"