"What is Sexual Sadism?
It is important to distinguish between "Sadism", which is the term used in conjunction with Sadistic Personality Disorder, and "Sexual Sadism" which may be associated with SPD yet is classified as one of the paraphilias because of the specific sexual component. The two are most certainly related and an understanding of sadism is paramount to the understanding of sexual sadism but this particular section deals only with the paraphilia of sexual sadism.
Sexual sadism refers to the derivation of sexual pleasure from the infliction of pain, suffering and/or humiliation upon another person. The pain and suffering of the victim, which may be both physical and psychological, is pivotal to the sexual arousal and pleasure. The ICD-10 (World Health Organization, 1992) defines sadism as "preference for sexual activity that involves bondage or infliction of pain or humiliation."
Official Criteria:
Current diagnostic criterion from the DSM-IV-TR requires the following criteria be met:
1. Recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviours involving acts (real, not simulated) in which the psychological or physical suffering (including humiliation) of the victim is sexually exciting for the person, have been present for at least 6 months.
2. The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviours cause clinically significant stress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of function.
While the criteria may appear to imply that the impairment must be perceived by the person in question to be applied, this is not the case. Ie. sadistic behaviour resulting in harming someone would be interpreted as an impairment of function." Source & more.
It is important to distinguish between "Sadism", which is the term used in conjunction with Sadistic Personality Disorder, and "Sexual Sadism" which may be associated with SPD yet is classified as one of the paraphilias because of the specific sexual component. The two are most certainly related and an understanding of sadism is paramount to the understanding of sexual sadism but this particular section deals only with the paraphilia of sexual sadism.
Sexual sadism refers to the derivation of sexual pleasure from the infliction of pain, suffering and/or humiliation upon another person. The pain and suffering of the victim, which may be both physical and psychological, is pivotal to the sexual arousal and pleasure. The ICD-10 (World Health Organization, 1992) defines sadism as "preference for sexual activity that involves bondage or infliction of pain or humiliation."
Official Criteria:
Current diagnostic criterion from the DSM-IV-TR requires the following criteria be met:
1. Recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviours involving acts (real, not simulated) in which the psychological or physical suffering (including humiliation) of the victim is sexually exciting for the person, have been present for at least 6 months.
2. The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviours cause clinically significant stress or impairment in social, occupational or other important areas of function.
While the criteria may appear to imply that the impairment must be perceived by the person in question to be applied, this is not the case. Ie. sadistic behaviour resulting in harming someone would be interpreted as an impairment of function." Source & more.
- The Psychology of Sadomasochism @ Psychology Today
- Dominance and Submission One Perspective: Masochists (physical; emotional and mental)
- Different Types of Masochism - One Size Does Not Fit All - Deviance & Desire
- The Pleasure of the Pain and Why Some People Need S and M - Sadomasochistic Sex @ HealthyPlace - "It is human nature to try to maximize esteem and control: Those are two general principles governing the study of the self. Masochism runs contrary to both, and was therefore an intriguing psychological puzzle for Baumeister, whose career has focused on the study of self and identity."
- The Pleasure of Pain:Find out why one in 10of us is into S&M. @ Psychology Today - "Although people report that they have better-than-usual sex immediately after a scene, the goal of S & M itself is not intercourse: "A good scene doesn't end in orgasm, it ends in
catharsis."" - Sexual sadism @ MindDisorder..
- Bullying @ Out of the FOG
- Belittling, Condescending and Patronizing @ Out of the FOG
Algolagnia
- "Algolagnia (/ælɡəˈlæɡniə/; from Greek: ἄλγος, álgos, "pain", and Greek: λαγνεία, lagneía, "lust") is a sexual tendency which is defined by deriving sexual pleasure and stimulation from physical pain, often involving an erogenous zone.Studies conducted indicate differences in how the brains of those with algolagnia interpret nerve input" - Wikipedia.
- @Vocabulary
- @Urban Dictionary
Autosadism
- "Autosadism, or automasochism, is behaviour inflicting pain or humiliation on oneself. It may be related to self-harm or a paraphilia involving sexual arousal. It can be viewed as a form of masochism, a sublimated form of sadism, or a means to experiencing algolagnia, a sexual tendency which is defined by deriving sexual pleasure and stimulation from physical pain." - Wikipedia
Sexual masochism/ sadism
Physical masochism/sadism
- Lascivious: How to Hurt the Ones You Love @ VICE - "By definition, domestic violence is “a pattern of behavior which involves the abuse by one partner against another in an intimate relationship,” which also could easily describe relationships that involve BDSM. The difference between healthy perversion and unhealthy abuse lies in consent and communication."
- I Enjoy Being Hit, Bruised and Welted During Sex, But I'm Not Looking for Mr. Goodbar @ xoJane
Algolagnia
Leptosadism
pain slut
pain play
paingasm
Odaxelagnia
Rhabdophilia
Wartenberg Wheel
castration anxiety
- "Castration anxiety is the fear of emasculation in both the literal and metaphorical sense. Castration anxiety is an overwhelming fear of damage to, or loss of, the penis; one of Sigmund Freud's earliest psychoanalytic theories. Although Freud regarded castration anxiety as a universal human experience, few empirical studies have been conducted on the topic. Much of the research that has been done on the topic was done decades ago, although still relevant today. The theory is that a child has a fear of damage being done to their genitalia by the parent of the same sex (i.e. a son being afraid of his father) as punishment for sexual feelings toward the parent of the opposite sex (i.e. a son toward his mother). It has been theorized that castration anxiety begins between the ages of 3 and 5, otherwise known as the phallic stage of development according to Freud. Although typically associated with males, castration anxiety is experienced in differing ways for both the male and female sexes." - Wikipedia
- Castration Anxiety: Why Men Are Fixated With Pretty Girls Breaking Consoles
- @Psychology Dictionary
PHALLOORCHOALGOLAGNIA
tamakeri
Breast Squeezing
nipple clamps
Ball-busting - Squeezed
Ball stretcher
Ball crusher
Humbler
Testicle cuffs
*Not animals or insects. That is cruel and insane behavior. We don't want to harm our little friends. Do it to your partner instead :P ;) Step all over him or her,not our fellow friends :)
Emotional masochism/sadism
According to Wikipedia,"Humiliation is the abasement of pride, which creates mortification or leads to a state of being humbled or reduced to lowliness or submission. It is an emotion felt by a person whose social status has just decreased. It can be brought about through intimidation, physical or mental mistreatment or trickery, or by embarrassment if a person is revealed to have committed a socially or legally unacceptable act. Whereas humility can be sought alone as a means to de-emphasise the ego, humiliation must involve other person(s), though not necessarily directly or willingly. Acting to humiliate oneself may be linked to a personal belief (as with mortification of the flesh, with some religions), or it can be part of erotic humiliation where the belittling activity provides emotional and/or sexual arousal or heightened sensation.
Humiliation is currently an active research topic, and is now seen as an important - and complex - core dynamic in human relationships, having implications at intrapersonal, interpersonal, institutional and international levels"
Erotic Humiliation
5 Ways A Man Must Dominate His Woman During Sex
Humiliation @ EmotionalCompetency - actualdefinition,not BDSM definition
about/info
Degradation
- Choose Your Words Carefully III: Humiliation vs. Degradation - "Degradation is the wearing down of someone’s self esteem to a point of vulnerability. Tearing down one’s self respect and self worth by reducing them to mass of self doubt and uncertainty…this is degradation. It is very hard to repair the damage one has received from being degraded and worn down. Degradation is not something that most individuals enjoy or participate in willingly. Telling someone time and time again that they are worthless, or ignorant, or repulsive is a means of tearing apart the delicate fibers that create the human ego, once this fabric is frayed and torn it takes a lot of tender care and time to regain its original luster and beauty. "
- Humiliation and Degradation | A submissives journey - "To be spanked naked in front of others and then handed over by your Owner to all of them to take Their turns might be humiliating. But to be blindfolded naked and squatting up against a wall at a party where you are cuffed and hooked to the wall and have a sign around your neck, "Oral slave for use tonight." Might be degrading. "
- "The other side of the humiliation coin is degradation. I am personally not able to handle degrading play because I can’t disassociate the play from real life. So to experience something degrading will come with me after the play is over and has a negative impact on my self esteem and relationship. Degradation is saying false truths to people to lower them and slander them. It’s intention is to break down a person. It’s like calling me a fat pig just because I’m overweight. It’s an attack on my person." - Slut Is Such a Dirty Word and I Love It! | Submissive Guide Note: talk with the person. My boyfriend feels the most comfortable when I am degrading him, he almost hates it when I tell him I love his body.
Physical humiliation
- Ejaculating, spitting, and urinating on the submissive's body, especially the face.
- Servitude
- Embarrassment
- Some sexual humiliation involves physical inflicting pain, but much of it is far more concerned with ridicule, mocking, degradation, and embarrassment..
- "Humiliation is the fine art of humbling someone or lowering an individual’s status in the eyes of another, or oneself. This is done through verbal response or suggestion, or by action. Putting a pink furry collar with blunted spikes on a muscle bound six foot eight slave, is humiliating…. especially if you add some nice little pink bows in his hair, and little pink ribbons hanging from certain appropriate body parts. Making someone walk around with a pacifier in his or her mouth may be considered humiliating. Making someone eat and drink out of a doggy bowl on the floor may be considered humiliating. There are individual’s that enjoy humiliation and in truth thrive on the "abuse" of being embarrassed or humiliated time and time again. " - Choose Your Words Carefully III: Humiliation VS Degradation by Norische
- "Humiliation and especially erotic humiliation is the intentional use of words and actions to cause embarrassment, shame or psychological discomfort. For me, I may enjoy being insulted in some ways but be genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways. For example, I can’t stand the word bitch. It gives me a terrible revolting feeling. It’s completely bad for me to be called a bitch. But call me a slut and I’ll swoon." - Slut Is Such a Dirty Word and I Love It! | Submissive Guide
- Doug's Female Humiliation and Degradation Page
Verbal
- Appropriate Names for Your Sub. @ BDSM Research Foundation
- Verbal belittlement, with such words as slave, boy, girl, missy, and pet.
- Insults and verbal abuse, such as fat, ugly, stupid, sick, disgusting, andworthless.
- Degrading names, such as slut, shit, bitch, cunt, and whore.
- Disparaging or cruel references about breasts, facial appearance, genitalia (including small penis size, erection difficulties, or circumcision status), buttocks, or about behaviors such as walking, responsiveness, and hygiene.
- Forced flattery, such as agreeing that every decision that the dominant makes is wise, correct, and justifiable, while additionally praising the dominant's physical and personality traits.
- Mockery, derision, and ridicule.
Self-abasement
Asthenolagnia
catagelophilia
defilement (adult bdsm)
Phobophilia
Mental/Power masochism / sadism