Jealousy
Othello syndrome
- "Morbid jealousy, also known as Othello syndrome or delusional jealousy, is a psychological disorder in which a person is preoccupied with the thought that their spouse or sexual partner is being unfaithful without having any real proof, along with socially unacceptable or abnormal behaviour related to these thoughts. The most common cited forms of psychopathology in morbid jealousy are delusions and obsessions. It is considered a subtype of delusional disorder." - Wikipedia
- @NCBI
- Othello Syndrome, Denial, and Delusion@ Plos Blogs - "Othello Syndrome is a type of delusional jealousy, marked by suspecting a faithful partner of infidelity, with accompanying jealousy, attempts at monitoring and control, and sometimes violence. The problem is named for Shakespeare’s Othello, who murdered his beautiful wife Desdemona because he believed her unfaithful."
- The Tragedy of Othello Syndrome @ The Neurocritic
- Why Do We Try To Make Our Partners Jealous? by Sean M. Horan Ph.D. Sean M. Horan Ph.D. @Psychology Today - "The research team found that individuals who reported more frequent attempts at making partners jealous also reported lower levels of satisfaction, higher levels of uncertainty, and lower levels of perceived partner commitment. That said, when examining the unique predictive abilities of each variable, perceived level of partner commitment emerged as the only predictor of jealousy evocation.Collectively, then, perceptions of commitment appear to be important in understanding jealousy evocation behaviors. Thus, one way to temper jealousy evocation might be through increased assurances."
- Jealousy vs. Envy by Laura @ Mindfulness Muse
- "Are you alone? Do you need someone? Is it too late to talk? Did I wait too long? Thousand words don't change a thing Is it only three? Three words that you're missing?" -In the face of a decaying romance, Nicki’s lover doesn’t want her trying hard to express herself, like in a rap song’s thousand words.Instead, her lover just wants Nicki to say “I love you” and stay around.
INSECURITY
- Read This If You Feel Insecure In Your Relationship by Franklin Veaux - "First, really accept, and I mean accept right down into your bones, that you can lose your partner. It absolutely can happen, that’s the truth, and nothing can change that truth....Second, value yourself. You have worth. There’s a reason your partner chose to be with you, even if you don’t see it. Yes, you have flaws....Next, trust your partner. They are with you because they want to be. They had other choices, and they chose you."
Emotional contagion
Depersonalization
Emotional Deprivation/Affective Deprivation Disorder
- Emotional Deprivation | beyondtheborderlinepersonality - "Emotional Deprivation Disorder is a syndrome which results from a lack of authentic affirmation and emotional strengthening in one’s life. A person may have been criticized, ignored, neglected, abused, or emotionally rejected by primary caregivers early in life, resulting in that individual’s stunted emotional growth. ‘Unaffirmed’ persons are incapable of developing into emotionally mature adults until they receive authentic affirmation from another person. Maturity is reached when there is a harmonious relationship between a person’s body, mind, emotions and spiritual soul under the guidance of their reason and will."
- Emotional Deprivation Disorder | Baars Institute - "Emotional Deprivation Disorder was first discovered by Dutch psychiatrist Dr. Anna A. Terruwe in the 1950’s. She called it the frustration neurosis (De frustratie neurose in Dutch; Deprivation Neurosis when translated into the English language by her colleague, Dr. Conrad W. Baars), as it has to do with the frustration of the natural sensitive need for unconditional love. Dr. Terruwe found that a person could exhibit symptoms of an anxiety disorder or repressive disorder when these symptoms, in fact, were not the result of repression, but rather the result of a lack of unconditional love in early life. "
- Emotional Deprivation Disorder - Psychology Wiki - "Terruwe was treating a 25-year woman for "intense anxiety" and "an unusually infantile emotional life", whom Terruwe described as highly intelligent. After six months of psychotherapy, the patient said, "Doctor, nothing that you say has any effect on me. For six months I have been sitting here hoping you would take me to your heart… you have been blind to my needs.""
- Ask the Mental Health Expert Archives 2001-2004 - "EDD individuals are described as "?incapable of establishing normal, mature contact with others. This abnormal emotional rapport with others causes the person to feel lonely and uncomfortable in social settings--he or she feels like a stranger, not part of the group. In essence, the person feels like a child or a baby, and others must direct themselves to the individual just as an adult would with a young child. The person can usually establish a willed rapport with others because intellectually the person believes they should be interacting with others, however, friendships are superficial as the person lacks the capacity to have an emotional investment in relationships.""
hyperviglance
- What Is the Definition of Hypervigilance? - "PTSD sufferers with hypervigilance live in a long lasting state of insecurity. To prevent the traumatic experience they lived through from happening again, they become preoccupied with spotting potential threats. As a result, hypervigilant people startle easily, making it a bad idea to sneak up on an individual who's in such a state. Being in a new or uncomfortable environment can exacerbate the symptoms of hypervigilance."
- Hypervigilance and Highly Sensitive People | Highly Sensitive - "A summary definition of hypervigilance is provided by Wikipedia as “an enhanced state of sensory sensitivity accompanied by an exaggerated intensity of behaviors whose purpose is to detect threats.Ashley Judd“Hypervigilance is also accompanied by a state of increased anxiety which can cause exhaustion.“Other symptoms include: abnormally increased arousal, a high responsiveness to stimuli and a constant scanning of the environment for threats."
- Hypervigilance in Anxiety - Symptoms - Anxiety - "“It's around the corner. You will not be fooled or surprised. Everything is risky. Germs, driving, date rapists, identity thieves, breast lumps, pandemics, stranger danger, ebola, ecoli, left arm pain, child abductions, odd bloating sensations, racing heart rate, lower back pain, radon, Y2K, weird rashes, killer bees.”"
- Hypervigilant anxiety meets worst-case reality: I got punk'd by my own brain | Psychology Today - "In my lifelong attempt to protect myself from getting hurt, I placed my bets wrong. I made decisions to avoid certain kinds of demons, but not the right ones. It is pure Greek myth-sized hubris to think I could have foreseen anything, really. I'm like my own mythical Cassandra, in reverse: consigned to a life of knowing the truth but never to be believed. I was so certain I knew what to look out for. I bought my own hype. What arrogance. What a waste. I thought I could outrun the wolves I thought were coming after me."
- Hypervigilance - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia - "People suffering from hypervigilance may become preoccupied with scanning their environment for possible threats, causing them to lose connections with their family and friends. They will 'overreact' to loud and unexpected noises or become agitated in highly crowded or noisy environments. They will often have a difficult time getting to sleep or staying asleep."
Hates / usually (not always) uncomforable being alone
(Lack of) Object Consistancy
Sensitive & (emotionally) Vulnerable
- **The Emotional Vulnerability of Borderline Personality Disorder By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. - "Imagine you have a cut. The skin around your cut heals. But it heals all wrong. The scarred tissue is extra sensitive. So much so that every time you simply touch the area, it’s like the wound tears open again, and again, and again; and the pain peaks every single time. Now imagine this wound represents your emotional sensitivity and how you deal with the world every day. This is akin to the emotional susceptibility of borderline personality disorder (BPD)"
Fear of abandonment
- Fear of Abandonment and the Need to be Alone : Borderline Personality Disorder Forum thread started by mooshoo @ Psych forums - "I am terrified of being left out, left behind, forgotten about, left in general. However, I frequently feel safer when I am by myself. Even though I don't want to be abandoned, I also want to be left alone. Being with other people is so tremendously stressful for me. The constant worry of screwing up and people rejecting me makes me want to lock myself in the safety of a dark closet with a blanket and pillow, where no one can find me and I can't let anyone down. "
- "Fear of Abandonment - An irrational belief that one is imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced." - Out of the FOG
- Fear Of Abandonment In Relationships - YouTube
- Fear of Abandonment - A Self-Sabotaging Phobia - 1. Getting to Know Each Other 2. The Honeymoon Phase.3. The Real Relationship. 4. The Slight Great read for nons, does shame a little bit at the end, but overall a good read to help someone understand someone's fear of abandonmemt
- 5 Signs That You Fear Abandonment | Articles at KEEN.com - "1.Fantasizing Doomsday Abandonment Scenarios .2 Giving Her Man Too Much of Everything He Wants 3.Seeing Another Woman as a Threat 4.Unreasonable Demands on His Time 5.Pulling Away and Pushing Him Away."
Athazagoraphobaia
- @ Phobiapedia Wiki - “Fear of being forgotten, ignored or left behind.”
- Athazagoraphobia: Fear of Being Ignored @ Jamaal May
- Athazagoraphobia - Fear / Phobia of being Forgotten @Most Common Phobias - “Now, if someone with Athazagoraphobia is, for instance, stood up, the other person arrives late, etc. a panic attack may set in. Panic attack symptoms include rapid heart beat, chest pain, difficulty breathing, weakness, fainting, dizziness, feeling a loss of control, tingling or numbness in the hands or fingers, excessive sweating, and chills.”
- All About Athazagoraphobia @ No Bullying - “The behavioral symptoms will manifest when the person tries desperately to avoid an instance of the excruciating anxiety the athazagoraphobia causes. Some of the most common symptoms of athazagoraphobia are constant fear of forgetting or being forgotten, anxiety, nausea, dizziness, sweating, fainting, shortness of breath, hyperventilation and depression. The athazagoraphobia sufferer will do just about anything to avoid the symptoms of the disease. “ Trigger Warning :Talks about medications and “treating.”
- @ Factual Facts - “Nobody in this world wants to be forgotten nor ignored, but there are some people who have unfathomable and irrational thoughts about someone forgetting them or the person themself fearing they’ll forget. This is what people with athazagoraphobia face in their lives.”
- Border _ : A compassionate documentary on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) FULL MOVIE
- **Make BPD Stigma Free: Facebook page // -Official site
- Feelings of Emptiness - An acute, chronic sense that daily life has little worth or significance, leading to an impulsive appetite for strong physical sensations and dramatic relationship experiences.
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- Mad Hatter - A Case Study in Borderline Personality Disorder
- Beyond the Borderline Personality
- Common Misconceptions And Myths Attached To BPD, Lets Get a Few Things Straight! @ Bridget Of The North - 1.) Borderlines are attention seekers. 2.) Borderlines are manipulative. 3.) Borderlines are deceptive. 4.) Borderlines are demanding.
5.) Borderlines are destructivie. 6.) Borderlines are obstructive. 7.) Borderlines are dangerous. 8.) Borderlines are un-treatable…
9.) Borderlines are uncooperative. 10.) Borderlines are non-compliant. - Distorted Beliefs and Attitudes of People with Borderline Disorder @ BPD Family - BPD Belief: I am Worthless, Empty and Unlovable.2. I am a terrible person and need to be punished.3. If people love me, there must be something wrong with them. 4. Feelings create facts, not the other way around. Everything is black or white. No shades or other colors exist.6. I am the victim of everyone else's behavior. 7. If I can control someone, they will love me. 8. I need other people to be happy. But my need so scares me I have to push them away.9. If anyone really knew me, they would hate me.10. My mask of self-confidence will fool everyone.11. If I can prove you're a miserable excuse for a human being, that means I'm not as bad as I think I am.
- Support for Family Members @ BPD Family - "It's no secret that non-BPs often feel manipulated and lied to by their borderline loved ones. In other words, they feel controlled or taken advantage of through means such as threats, no-win situations, the"silent treatment," rages, and other methods they view as unfair.I believe that, in most cases, the BP's behavior is not intentionally manipulative. Rather, this kind of behavior can be seen as desperate attempts to cope with painful feelings or to get their needs met—without the aim of harming others."
- Personalities and fears
- composer63's Youtube channel
- I'm Not Your Borderline (BPD) Ex-Girlfriend! uploaded by xsullengirlx
- How a Person with Bipolar Thinks @ Bipolar Burble Blog by Natasha Tracy
- The anniversary's album name, Designing a Nervous Breakdown is very unique!
- Dark Therapy movie - About a vampire who is afraid of blood
- Mental Illnesses as monsters!
- P(personality disorder) types(dot)com
- Self-defeating personality disorder
- Beyond the Borderline Personality
- Borderline Personality Disorder for Dummies by Charles H Elliot
- BPD for Dummies @ Inside the Borderline
- Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder by Richard Moskovitz
- Personalities and fears
- Suicidal Thoughts by sWooZie
- Cut by Patrica McCormick
- You've Got This : Bipolar Support
- Will you stand up for mental illness - Education, empathy & acceptance
Gannushkin's subtypes
- Constitutionally depressive= chronically lowered mood.pessimistic worldview.viewing life as meaningless.avoidance of close relationships due to excessive sensitivity.a penchant for dark ruminations.a high risk of suicide -----DSM =Depressive personality disorder. Can be combined with some avoidant, dependent, and masochistic features,dysthymia
Pyotry's subtypes
Emotionally labile or reactively labile psychopaths *BPD isn't psychopathy*
*Kinda hate how the term "Psychopath"gets thrown around.Been around a few people with BPD and someone who is a legit psychopath and I can promise you, people with BPD do have feelings and empathy.
- "extremely quick mood swings.childishness and naivety.tenderness and fragility.high suggestibility.a penchant for emotional attachment.-----DSM = Borderline personality disorder with some depressive or masochistic features.-----Milton = Self-destructive borderline personality ."
Pathological liars = BPD MISDIAGNOSED
"prominent social defects, which includes extreme slovenliness.attention seeking and manipulative behavior.appearance consciousness.excessively excitable, immature, and rich imagination.high eloquence.involvement in fraud, charlatanism, crooked gambling.-----DSM = Histrionic personality disorder with some antisocial features.Narcissistic personality disorder with some antisocial features.Borderline personality disorder with some antisocial features.-----Milton = Disingenous histrionic personality.Unprincipled narcissistic personality.Impulsive borderline personality"
Cluster of epileptoids = ??
*The egotism makes me wonder if this is any form of BPD since people who have BPD are def. not egotistical. They are extremely sensitive and scared inside. Maybe this is more on the narcissism combined with something else?
- "Extreme irritability causing bursts of anger.a penchant for dysphoria (maliciousness combined with anger, anguish, and fear).shallow-mindedness.egotism, vigor, fixedness, exactingness, and rigidity.strong antisocial attitudes.a high risk of suicide.-----DSM = Antisocial personality disorder usually combined with some borderline features.-----Milton = Covetous antisocial personality.Impulsive borderline personality"
Milon's subtypes = Restive, self-derogating or morbid depressive personality.
Discouraged (including avoidant features)
- "Pliant, submissive, loyal, humble; feels vulnerable and in constant jeopardy; feels hopeless, depressed, helpless, and powerless." - Wikipedia
- "Negativistic, impatient, restless, as well as stubborn, defiant, sullen, pessimistic, and resentful; easily slighted and quickly disillusioned."- Wikipedia
Impulsive (including histrionic or antisocial features)
- "Capricious, superficial, flighty, distractible, frenetic, and seductive; fearing loss, becomes agitated, and gloomy and irritable; potentially suicidal." - Wikipedia
Self-destructive (including depressive or masochistic features)
- "Inward-turning, intropunitively angry; conforming, deferential, and ingratiating behaviors have deteriorated; increasingly high-strung and moody; possible suicide." - Wikipedia
"Types"
Quiet / waif
- Markham's Behavioral Health: When the borderline mother's motto is "Life is too hard" - "The Waif seems to want soothing and often leaves others feeling helpless because she is often inconsolable. As Dr. Lawson writes that the Waif might say, "I can't allow myself to need your help and be in control at the same time." The irony is that the Waif feels that in accepting help she is loosing control.The Waif can self soothe with the compulsive use of alcohol, drugs, money, food, sex, work, and likes to play the role of the martyr. She can often become hysterical to get attention....Dr. Lawson writes:"Loss or abandonment can trigger psychotic reactions. Abandonment or rejection by her partner arouses rage in the Waif, as she seeks to annihilate the one who failed to love her perfectly." p. 72"
- downwardspiralintothevortex.com site is taken down - "a “type” of Borderline Characteristic called the Borderline Waif, or elsewise known as The Quiet Borderline. I talked about Dr. Christine Ann Lawson’s description of The Waif Mother, but the Quiet Borderline is something that I’ve seen many times before used to describe a particular expression of BPD (not just of parents).It’s potentially less common, but equally insidious, maybe moreso, because it can be trickier to diagnose someone who displays characteristics of a Quiet Borderline. Why’s that? Because they are much more likely to Act In, then Act Out. They are not known for raging openly, where other people can see them, so it’s more difficult to recognize that there’s a problem. It’s very typical for only those people that are very close, often intimately involved, with this person to know that there is a problem that needs to be helped with. This is something that I identify with very well. To the outside world anyone you ask would tell you I am the pinnacle of pulled together. They don’t know what goes on inside.Which ultimately is not that different from what you would consider a classic Borderline presentation. By which I mean that all those underlying reasons for a BPD diagnosis are essentially the same in those that are “quiet” and those that are acting out. The main difference is how it presents and manifests… how a person expresses their symptoms. "
- The Quiet Borderline - Borderline Personality Disorder Inside Out
- Types of Borderline – Quiet Borderlines | MAKE BPD STIGMA-FREE!
- Thuy Linh: The Quiet Borderline / Borderline Waif
- AAPEL - the quiet borderline
- Quiet Borderline! What is it? Mental Health Help with Kati Morton - YouTube
- What Is a ‘Quiet’ Borderline? - Borderline Personality Disorder
- 'Quiet' or 'Acting In' Borderline Personality Disorder Subtype
- WTF IS BPD — I was a "quiet" borderline
- 6 Examples of Psychological Projection We All Commit ⋆ LonerWolf
- Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) uploaded by CharlyBorderlineCase
Hermitt
- Markham's Behavioral Health: When the borderline mother's motto is "Life is too dangerous." - "Like the Waif, the Hermit also often has trouble sleeping at night ruminating about the safety of her children, her husband, her job, her heath, and any number of other things. Hermits can be extraordinarily sensitive and may believe that they are psychic according to Dr. Lawson. She looks for hidden meanings in greeting cards, gifts, invitations, and innocent comments....The predominant emotion of the Hermit borderine is fear and so they often shut out the ones they claim to love. It's as if they have been hurt so much in the past by people who were supposed to love them that they have made a pledge to themselves not to let anyone ever hurt them again. They, therefore, protect themselves by putting a wall around themselves which can be cold and stoney or accusatory and wrathful....The Hermit borderline is often depressed and filled with a sense of impending doom. Her view seems to be, "People are out to screw you, and if anyone can take advantage, or anything can go wrong, it probably will"
Cassonova, Queen & Witch = NPD disguised as Borderline.
People with BPD do NOT TRY to hurt other people. They do it by accident because they are so afraid of being hurt and rejected. they feel remorse, narcissists and psychopaths do not.
Cassonova
Cassonova
- "Casanova. Seducing women feeds his narcissism, and fills his core emptiness–it’s his addiction. Since he can’t form solid/healthy attachments, he takes hostage." - Taken from Suddenly Abandoned (very insensitive. Reader Beware.)
- Markham's Behavioral Health: The bordeline Witch- "I can't be happy until I have found someone to hurt."
- Markham's Behavioral Health: The Borderline Witch, part two - Beware of "the turn"
- Markham's Behavioral Health: The Borderline Witch - Part three- The Witch's motto: Life Is War - "She engages in "borderline rage" which leads to denigration, smashing of objects especially if they are favored objects of her children such as favorite toys or of her spouse like a favorite guitar, desk, cars etc. I had one client tell me that on several occassions her mother would, in a rage, remove all her toys and beloved dolls and stuffed animals, place them in black garbage bags and make her put them in the trash. She says looking back she has no understanding of what enraged her mother to take such action. A husband told me that his borderline wife one time smashed his guitar and overturned and damaged his desk after a fight when he had left for a few hours to cool down. He said that after that he never brought anything into the house that he was not willing to have her destory in another rage. Nothing, he said, was safe."
People ALWAYS look for the negative things. Look for the positives in a person with BPD, or any other "personality disorder"
- Sensory Processing Sensitivity @ LIFEBLAZING -
- Embracing Borderline Personality Disorder - Dr Keith Gaynor
- POSITIVES of Borderline Personality Disorder!!! @ WLI
- The Benefits of Personality Disorder @ Psychology Today
- Positives of BPD - Mind of Borderline
- AAPEL- Emophane, emophania, emophany or BPD, borderline disorder ?
- Positives of BPD
- Are there positive sides to BPD? : Borderline Personality Disorder Forum - Psych forums
- The 7 Benefits of BPD - A Little Optimism : Borderline Personality Disorder Forum - Psych forums
- Sisyphus Bound Blog - Sisyphus Bound
- Down ~n~ Dirty - Down ~n~ Dirty added a new photo — with Wendi...
- Vernon Smith - Vernon Smith with Veronica Hehir.
- POSITIVES of Borderline Personality Disorder!!! - YouTube
They are more compassionate towards others.
If you want a different partner, you are all set :P ;)