"Get out of my bedroom ... stop telling me who I can and can't screw...stay out of my kitchen.. stop telling me how much I can eat" .. by WLI
Confessions of an empathic sadist by WLI
My results summary from BDSM Test
Terms/About
Also see
Hypnosis
Seduction
BDSM & Tantric sex/sacred sex
Confessions of an empathic sadist by WLI
My results summary from BDSM Test
Terms/About
Also see
Hypnosis
Seduction
BDSM & Tantric sex/sacred sex
- Radical Ecstasy by Dossie Easton (Author), Janet W Hardy @ Amazon - "With trademark frankness and humor, these popular BDSM/sexuality authors document their journey into the realm of transcendent kink and radical ecstasy. Here, they share techniques that partners BDSM with tantric sex practices to create a state of transcendence during sexual practice."
- Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths Of Bdsm And Beyond by Lee Harrington - "Modern tools of BDSM, fetish, kink and erotic adventuring have roots that go far back into history, tools that have been used for reaching altered states of consciousness, creating spiritual epiphanies, and changing lives. In Sacred Kink you will explore and find practical tools involving: - Negotiation, Communication and Aftercare for Sacred Kink - Catharsis, Top Trances and Exorcising Personal Demons - Ordeals, Earning Leathers, and Ending Relationships - Energetically Transmitted Diseases and Solo Sex Magic - Creating Ritual Play Spaces and Dedicated Tools - Developing Rituals for Dominance and Submission - Pain Processing and the Dialysis of Desire - Erotic Shapeshifting and Possession Workings - The Spiritual Calling of Mastery and Slavery - Kink and Chemistry Ethics - . . . and so much more"
- Urban Tantra &barbara carrellas
- Bondassage® - "Our practitioners come to us with training in various modalities: Sensual Massage, BDSM, Tantra, Sexological Bodywork, Fetish, Taoist Erotic Massage, Kink, Reiki, Yoga and/or Domination"
- The Relationship Between BDSM and Ancient Tantra @ BDSM in the mind - "Many people are exploring BDSM because they are looking for more – more than the boring, vanilla world offers, more than the surface values of life, more awareness, more energy flow, more expansion, more bliss…I’ve seen that the BDSM world is one of most systematic, developed bodies of expertise in creating high energy levels, flow, expansion – but mostly in the first 3 chakras or energy centers in the human body."
BDSM info
- Store - The Kitten Couturier @ IG // @Etsy
- Store - Kinkxkult @ IG // Official Site
- Kink Academy @ Twitter // Official Site
- Beyond BDSM
- Social Psychology: Third Edition by Eliot R. Smith and Diane M. Mackie
- BDSM, Personality and Mental Health:BDSM practitioners prefer roles that fit their personalities @Psychology today
- Sick Like Me by In This Moment
- Is it sick of me to need control of you Is it sick to make you beg the way I do Is it sick of me to want you crawling on your knees Is it sick to say I want you biting down on me" - Sick Like Me by In This Moment
- Star Wars BDSM toys from a kinky galaxy far, far away
- Bdsm Unveiled
- Domina's Etiquette Tips - this is more for professional dommes, but you can take some tips and advice from it.
- Chico Munch
- B.E.S.T slave training - "Behavior:Emotions:Self-Image:Thoughts"
- BDSM in the mind - Mind, Body, spirit. Great website has tons of information
- Jouissance - In French, jouissance means enjoyment, in terms both of rights and property,and of sexual orgasm — the latter has a meaning partially lacking in the English word "enjoyment".Poststructuralism has developed the latter sense of jouissance in complex ways, so as to denote a transgressive, excessive kind of pleasure linked to the division and splitting of the subject involved." - Wikipedia
- Out of the Shadows: About BDSM, Part 1:Intro
- Out of the Shadows: About BDSM, Part 2:Saftey
- Out of the Shadows: About BDSM, Part 3
- BDSM Definitions by Barnoness V
- Partner Selection, Power Dynamics, and Sexual Bargaining in Self-Defined BDSM Couples by Bert Cutler
- Psychology & BDSM: Pathology or Individual Difference?
- Lecture Collection | Human Behavioral Biology
- Check out Notre Domme
- Check out CollarNCuffs
- Submissive Guide (dot) com
- Partner Selection, Power Dynamics, and Sexual Bargaining in Self-Defined BDSM Couples by Bert Cutler
- The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom
Sensual Domination
Slave
- BDSM: A Master & Slave Relationship I The Feed - YouTube
- BDSM -- What a Slave Needs
- The Nature of Master/slave (Owner/property) Relationships
- Master/slave (BDSM) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
- The Nature of Master/slave (Owner/property) Relationships @ Teramis
- Characteristics of a Slave - Submission, BDSM, Dominance, D/s, Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism
Submissive
- Sub_pride @ IG
- Living in a D/s Relationship @ Kim Debron (dot) tripod (dot) com
- "Dominance and submission (also called D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs, and rituals involving the submission of one person to another in an erotic episode or lifestyle. It is a subset of BDSM.Physical contact is not a necessity, and D/s can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email, or other messaging systems. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes crossing into sadomasochism. In D/s, both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Those who take the superior position are called dominants—Doms (male) or Dommes (female)—while those who take the subordinate position are called submissives—or subs (male or female). A switch is an individual who plays either role. Two switches together may negotiate and exchange roles several times in a session. "Dominatrix" is a term usually reserved for a female professional dominant who dominates others for pay.Note, it is common for writers to capitalise the "D" in Dominant but leave the "s" in lowercase for the submissive. Many extend this to His/Hers, Him/Her, He/She, etc., to make it clear when they are referring to a Dominant." - Wikipedia
- Theory of Submissive Service @ Powerful Pleasures
- Seven Most Common Types Of Submissive’s. What are you? @ thekinkyworldofvile - The “Little Girl” Submissive,The “Tame Me” Submissive, Brat, Master is God, “I am Slave, Hear Me Roar!” Submissive SAM, The “True” Submissive
- Brats, SAMs and Break-mes - Deviance & Desire @ BDSM in the Mind
Sub vs. slave
- A Slave is Not a Submissive
- "A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not. A submissive has limits; a slave has given up all limits except those which his/her owner sets for them..A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. A slave initially makes a choice to obey his/her master/mistress at all times and then submits to the will of his/her master at all times.A submissive accepts submission, while a slave accepts obedience.A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property.A submissive is owned, but a slave is possessed.A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, and always kneels at his/her owner’s feet.A submissive has a safe-word to end play, while a slave has consented to no-consent.A slave must be a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the “ultimate” state of submission, which is being a slave.A slave is more submissive than a “mere” submissive. Submissives are just playing; slaves live the lifestyle.A submissive has more self-respect than a slave. Slaves are crazy, because who in their right mind would want to be a slave?" - The Difference between a Slave and a Submissive (gives examples, the author does not agree with those definitions)
- Submission Vs slave @ BEST
- Submissive vs Slave @ Powerful Pleasures
People:
- kim Debron (dot) tripod (dot) com
- Noodles and Beef
- mistress kiley
- Who is Eve Minax? - "Eve practices from a place of diversity and acceptance. She helps many clients of all persuasions develop and maintain long term connected relationships. Eve values the magic of Dominance and submission (D/s or Control/surrender) dynamics, and helps newcomers and seasoned alike navigate their relationships. For hands on work, she has studied and taught Urban Tantra with Barbara Carellas and is a certified Bondassage practitioner. On the psychological Eve studied and practices Dominance and submission with Sybil Holiday, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, (the other CBT), Relaxation and Mindfulness Techniques, and Non Violent Communication."
Fun & Random stuff
"Bondage on a budget"
- "In BDSM, TPE refers to a type of relationship: total power exchange. The implication is that the dominant partner has complete control and authority over the submissive in all areas and at all times, even when they're not actively engaged in a scene. Most couples will, however, agree to a set of terms and limits beforehand, which can be renegotiated if it becomes necessary" - Urban Dictionary
- I am his Master, he is my pup, and we share a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship. @ Noodles and Beef
- Total Power Exchange - "Where two people consensually and voluntarily agree to a power relationship in which one assumes total responsibility and the other yields to that authority. The defining element of this Total Power Exchange is the deliberate construction of the dynamic, in which one person assumes some degree of psychological control over the other."
- What is TPE?? | Powerful Pleasures - "TPE couples commit for life. Death of one of the partners is the only “way out” of the relationship. Most TPE couples I know of are in this for life. When Quade collared me, I promised to Love, honor and obey him till death do us part. To the people present, it was just like a wedding. Nothing very unusual with the vows, except maybe the “obey” part. Quade and I took our vows literally."
- A Master’s Viewpoint Of The BDSM World: 24/7 TPE Slave - "Owning a slave is the same. One's ownership does not end simply because that person goes to work. When my slave sets foot into her place of business, I am still her owner. However, during her work hours, I have no say whatsoever about what she does. The control exerted over her belongs to the person who manages her. It is not me. Nevertheless, she is just as owned as when she is at home performing tasks for me."
- A Master’s Viewpoint Of The BDSM World: Total Power Exchange - "Taking this idea one step further, there is a concept in this lifestyle called "total power exchange" (the term "absolute" is often substituted for "total"). This move the power exchange to the extreme. The power breakdown under this circumstance is 100%-0%. All power lies in the hands of one. The other is meant to obey and follow. Again, this is a consensual choice that each party makes. However, both have responsibilities. "
- Total Power Exchange (TPE) | Dominant Training | husDOM™ Married Dominant - "Kaninchen and I do not have a Total Power Exchange relationship. Little Kaninchen is not my slave but rather my submissive. As a husDom I do not own her and her submission, I am continually working toward and earning her submission every day.Our power exchange would best be described by the Power Exchange Circle that Kaninchen and I have created in order to articulate our exchange. Kaninchen has chosen me to be the leader and has surrendered her submission to me and in turn I offer her my dominance. By doing this we continue to feed one another’s mind body and soul.Though I am her Dominant and she is my submissive she can withdraw her submission at anytime, which in turn would emasculate my dominance. I do not own her as you would a slave. This circle is what keeps us both actively engaged and encourages us both to continue growing in our D/s relationship."
- Absolute Power Exchange | Domination and Mastery
- sevdaslave: My Life As An Absolute Power Exchange Submissive - "After you agree you are your masters property, he OWNS you and if any time from then, the sub wants to leave she ask for his release if he says no, there is no "get out clause". As an APE sub you have to accept the good and the bad times. I have noticed that TPE BDSM seems to about sex and little else other than a bit of kink. I see sex as about 10% of my life, pain about 5%, and humiliation a big part of my life and, everyday living mostly NOT about sex."
- IdahoBDSM ~ alternative sexuality information portal - "Physical restrictions can also make it more and more difficult for the slave to leave - for example most TPE slaves consent to having no control over, or access to, finances or property without their master's permission, and may well have restrictions on their movements. This intentionally frees the slave to concentrate on the relationship, her duties and her master, other matters being beyond her control. Well-founded trust is of great importance, and the freedom felt by the slave has an empowering effect.The master's power, and slave's submission to that power, do not mean the slave is necessarily micro-managed - the essential factor is that the overall authority, the level of control set, and the ultimate responsibility, belong to the master. He aims for a precise balance between supervising the slave's life and encouraging creativity, the aim of the relationship being not boredom and the stifling of spirit, but excitement, deep physical and mental contact, and the freedom to evolve. The relationship hierarchy becomes second-nature, affecting every part of life, and making formal negotiations and contracts redundant."
- Care In Power Exchange Relationships — Sex For The Rest - "Yes. The Dom serves the sub, too. In fact, it's often quipped in the kink community that if you don’t know that the submissive holds all the power, you don’t know much about BDSM.Power exchange relationships are no different than vanilla relationships in that each partner must feel certain that they can trust the other person to respect boundaries, look out for the well-being of others in the relationship, and to actively try to give more than you get in the relationship. Careless relationships will still be careless even if it is malformed with power exchange, and power exchange is never an excuse to be careless. "
- "A safeword is usually given to the submissive partner to prevent the dominant from overstepping physical and emotional boundaries. The safeword is especially important when engaging in verbal humiliation or playing "mind-games", because the submissive may not be aware of an emotional boundary until it is crossed. If an emotional boundary is breached and the safeword spoken, the dominant should cease all play immediately and discuss the emotional breach with the submissive in a tender and understanding manner. Negotiating limits in advance is also an important element in a D/s relationship." -Wikipedia
- The BDSM color system @ The Safe Space Network
- Beyond BDSM
- B.E.S.T slave training - "Behavior:Emotions:Self-Image:Thoughts"
- BDSM in the mind - Mind, Body, spirit. Great website has tons of informatio
- "Transference focused psychotherapy (TFP), is a highly structured, twice-weekly modified psychodynamic treatment based on Otto Kernberg’s object relations model of borderline personality disorder..... The distorted perceptions of self, others, and associated affects are the focus of treatment as they emerge in the relationship with the therapist (transference)." - Wikipedia
- "These problems can be modified through psychotherapy. TFP is based on the idea that the patient experiences and lives out the internal images that make up their psychological structure in his or her relationship with the therapist, known as the transference (the transference of internal images and beliefs onto the current experience that the patient is having)." - Frank Yeomans, MD (dot) com
Contract
- "The treatment begins with the development of the treatment contract, which consists of general guidelines that apply for all clients and of specific items developed from problem areas of the individual client that could interfere with the therapy progress. The contract also contains therapist responsibilities. The client and the therapist must agree to the content of the treatment contract before the therapy can proceed." - Wikipedia